Unconditional love

[Anonymous]

When someone loves you unconditionally, what does that mean to you?

If that's too broad; I'm personally looking to get perspectives with regards to physical aspects of your "loved one". I.E. changes in appearance...

[Anonymous]

Other than your kids and your dog it's a myth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Other than your kids and your dog it's a myth.

+1. And as your kids age, then just your dog.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't work with either kids or dogs, just stretches more before breaking.

[Anonymous]

I would love my husband if his appearance changed. Sexual attraction is not the same as love, though. If he were, say, disfigured in a car accident or gained weight due to an illness, I'd like to think it wouldn't bother me. Bad personal choices would be different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love my husband if his appearance changed. Sexual attraction is not the same as love, though. If he were, say, disfigured in a car accident or gained weight due to an illness, I'd like to think it wouldn't bother me. Bad personal choices would be different.

PP - what do you consider "bad personal choices"?

[Anonymous]

Unconditional love means ultimate loyalty. Like, if he murdered someone, I would help him cover it up.
It also means no jokes at your spouses expense, and never complaining about your spouse to other people.
Wanting to help your spouse lose weight can be part of a loving relationship. Telling your best friend that you are turned off by your wife because she got fat cannot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love my husband if his appearance changed. Sexual attraction is not the same as love, though. If he were, say, disfigured in a car accident or gained weight due to an illness, I'd like to think it wouldn't bother me. Bad personal choices would be different.

PP - what do you consider "bad personal choices"?

Overeating, not exercising, obviously. But I would also add failing to use sunblock, getting unattractive piercings or tattoos, anything else that is a choice and happens to be unappealing to me. I would still love the person, but find them less atttlractive.

[Anonymous]

I don't think unconditional love requires unethical behavior. Rather it means you help the person face the consequences of their actions and continue to spend time with them. Eg if dh committed a crime, I would visit him in prison, continue to show love to him by listening and believing in his ability to be his best self.

[Anonymous]

My loved one ... well, I still loved him despite getting fat. But I wasn't attracted to him. At all. It made me feel shallow and mean. But it is what it is. My physical attraction for him was always on the weak side.

[Anonymous]

lol....at the sunblock obsessor.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol....at the sunblock obsessor.....

That made me chuckle too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol....at the sunblock obsessor.....

I'm 3 for 4 with her today. I ate too much, didn't exercise and read a book on the deck with only a 4 spf on. Maybe I 'll get a tattoo later...

[Anonymous]

I'm sloppy with sunblock and dh still loves me. I am so fortunate!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unconditional love means ultimate loyalty. Like, if he murdered someone, I would help him cover it up.
It also means no jokes at your spouses expense, and never complaining about your spouse to other people.
Wanting to help your spouse lose weight can be part of a loving relationship. Telling your best friend that you are turned off by your wife because she got fat cannot.

I like this definition of unconditional love. But not sure I would cover up my husband's murder. Maybe I would, depends on circumstances maybe.