s/o Do other women get irrationally angry when SO refuses sex?

[Anonymous]

I'll cop to it. Anyone else?

Backstory: Invited SO over late night last weekend essentially JUST FOR SEX and he said... nah, no thanks, I'm feeling lazy. Now I've been busting his balls all week and I'm STILL mad.

[Anonymous]

I hate getting turned down too, but it's part of a ltr.

[Anonymous]

Why waste your time getting mad, that never accomplishes anything. If the relationship isn't going toward commitment, dump him and find another guy.
He may not be all that interested in you.

[Anonymous]

In the realm of things, it doesn't matter one bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll cop to it. Anyone else?

Backstory: Invited SO over late night last weekend essentially JUST FOR SEX and he said... nah, no thanks, I'm feeling lazy. Now I've been busting his balls all week and I'm STILL mad.

This is kind of abusive and rapey. "Either give me sex or I will punish you!"

If a guy did it to a woman, DCUM would jump all over him.

[Anonymous]

I get really mad about it, too. I try my best not to let it show

[TwistdMike]

DW is simple, most of the time... She has a short fuse when she is tired, hungry, or horny. I do my part to ensure she is taken care of on all cases.

Happy wife, happy life

[Anonymous]

I get angry too if I get turned down when horny. If it's not happening, though, I take care of it myself. But I'll try just about anything to get him interested, first. I think we women can get spoiled because men are so often ready any time.

[Anonymous]

No, I'm relieved.

[Anonymous]

Probably need more details OP. How receptive are you when he initiates? Are his actions normal in your relationship when it comes from your side? If so, I think he gets a little more leeway if he was exhausted. Otherwise it's fair to look into what this tells you about his thoughts towards relationship maintenance.

[Anonymous]

I feel like there's a double standard. If he initiates and I am not in the mood, he gets sad. When I initiate and he turns down, if I get sad, he gets offended.

[Anonymous]

I'm like you OP. I used to be in an LTR with a guy who I would almost never turn down (when I did it was for a very good reason). When he turned me down I about lost it. Thankfully it was a rare occurance!

[Anonymous]

Mad? Sure. Mad and take it out on him all week? No. Is this an ongoing issue? If so, address it. Occasional thing? Get over it. I agree with PP, it's kind of not ok to be a jerk about it all week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get angry too if I get turned down when horny. If it's not happening, though, I take care of it myself. But I'll try just about anything to get him interested, first. I think we women can get spoiled because men are so often ready any time.

+1

[Anonymous]

He was banging another chick... Or maybe dude. What did you do to deserve this? You must have done something or maybe you just are an unskilled lover?