18 year old DS needs to pass final in order to graduate
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My son is failing right now. He is 18 and is told he won't graduate if he doesn't pass his Algebra 2 Final Exam. I have been crying all morning. I think I need therapy to deal with this . We have been fighting with him for four years over grades. W. I am going NUTS! Any advice for me? 
He failed 1st semester and 3rd quarter and his failing 4th Quarter. But they made a deal with him if he gets a D on the Final Exam he can graduated. His not studying or stay after school for help what else can I do? |
Anonymous
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Algebra 2 was hard. I hope he can pass it.
There is always summer school. The bigger question is does he have a plan for what is coming next? |
Anonymous
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Hire a tutor. Now.
Yes, it's on him if he fails, but you really want him done with high school. My DD has several LDs, including math, and it was hard, but I made her go to a tutor weekly, so she limped through Algebra 2. If he's in MCPS it's ironic since there won't be finals starting next year. Is he going to college? |
Anonymous
| tutor. 2x a week btwn now and final. how are his other grades? Help him figure out what he can slack off on in other classes to make the time to pull this off. You might need to sit with him and look at Edline and calculate for/with him how to make the time to do this. |
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The right answer is paid tutor twice a week and buckling down. However this assumes some level of commitment on the part of your son. What does he think of this situation? Are there some other issues that need to be addressed, such as giving him meds for ADHD if he has untreated ADHD? |
Anonymous
His other grades are fine. Passing. just going to get to study with his friends and and a tutor. Teacher is going above and beyond on helping him. He plans on going to NOVA next year just hope he passes and does well there. |
Anonymous
He takes Adderal for his ADHD. But one of the reason he hates Algebra is because he has at 730 am.. First block. |
Anonymous
| We are in same situation. Dd just took mcps qualitative literacy(mcps speak) for consumer math. Course is kind if ridiculous with outdated material and worksheet after worksheet of figuring out interest payments for car loans. Dd has iep and math is like greek to her. School is not that helpful. |
Anonymous
We dropped pre-calculus for quantitative lit. But that doesn't help OP. Is Algebra 2 offered in summer school? If so that is usually an dealer option. Doesn't help with on time graduation but may help him graduate. |
Anonymous
| You're a little over-involved OP. You've spent the morning crying? Please. It's not the end of the world. He can go to summer school and graduate two months from now. Maybe he needs the shock of not graduating to get his ass in gear. |
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OP - Find him a math tutor twice a week with a focus on what he needs to learn to pass and sweeten the deal with an offer of something he really wants if he will work with tutor and buckle down for next couple of weeks. In front of him be positive and calm, and of course you would like to hit him with a sledge hammer to make him see reality, but not the right approach - you just want to get the dam h.s. diploma in hand as at least with that he will have options once he decides to grow up. NOVA or similar community college setting sounds best place to see how he can really manage post high college level work. If not, with H.s. diploma he can at east find a job ad maybe go back to school in a year or two when it will mean more to him. Get the kid through h.s. as this is a critical point "not to just let him fail." |
Anonymous
I agree. Get a tutor. Your kid needs to be limiting his own screen time, and getting to bed at a reasonable hour. Are you going to be there to get him out of bed for college or a job? Time to loosen the apron strings. |
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You're a little over-involved OP. You've spent the morning crying? Please. It's not the end of the world. He can go to summer school and graduate two months from now. Maybe he needs the shock of not graduating to get his ass in gear.
Don't be so hard on OP. It's ok for her to be upset. Many years ago, my grandmother cried over my uncle who had to spend five years in high school and she was not a helicopter parent! It is normal to worry about your kids. Luckily, my uncle was very successful so it all worked out. I am wishing everything goes well for you Op and your son. |
Anonymous
Can he shift his schedule a bit to go to bed earlier (he can take some melatonin to help him feel sleepy for the first few nights), wake up earlier, and take his meds to ensure he is fully awake and functional at that ungodly hour (heck, I'm not fully functional at that time in the morning!). It's OK to hate math. I hate math and I'm a research scientist 
I think he really does need a tutor. |
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Stand back and let him fail. He can take Algebra 2 in summer school. Some kids need to fail to learn there are consequences to not doing the work.
And you need to figure out what's next. He needs a stupid job so that he can appreciate college before he wastes his time and your money there. |