Adult sharing hotel room with parents?

[Anonymous]

My parents occasionally schedule trips and will invite me (30 something female) and my two daughters (4 and 7) to join them, but the invitations is always to share the same hotel room (with a double bed set up and cot added) to save money. I am fine with paying for a second room for me and DD, but my parents think that it is very strange that I do not want to share a hotel room with them. If it were my mother (I am female), I would have no problem. But I think it's strange for an adult female to share a hotel room with her father. Am I a prude? Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Depends. How long is the trip? I shared a room with my parents for a long weekend to attend a family funeral. It was ok. I just dressed in the bathroom and came out to the room to dry my hair, etc... while my dad watched tv. It gave my mom and I a great chance to hang out.

If you don't mind paying for a separate room, then do it. Just let them know that you need the extra space but are excited to still get a chance to vacation with them. They shouldn't mind at all. If they do, maybe you need to dig into that with your mom...

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's strange to share a room with one's parents. Heck, I've opted to sleep in the same bed with my mom over her lumpy sofa when visiting (booking a hotel was not a possibility). That being said, with two kids, I'd definitely choose to book a separate room so that the kids' sleep wasn't disturbed by adults up late chatting, TV, etc. Just request adjoining rooms or a suite.

[Anonymous]

It's not weird for you to share a hotel room with your father.

At the same time it's totally normal for five people across three generations to want to split up among two different hotel rooms. Just say you think everyone would be more comfortable with a little more space.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's odd, but then I'm very close with my parents and had zero issues breastfeeding in front of my dad, nor did he with me doing it. Seeing how much of a non-issue it was for him made me realize that despite me being a grownup and having kids, he still sees me as his little girl.

[Anonymous]

No Problem--but would prefer my own room. It's a generational thing. They just see it as a waste of money. I can remember visiting my grandmother's sister when I was a child. Grandmother, grandfather, mom, cousin and I all slept in the same room at her sister's house. Kids slept on the floor. Adults on cots/sofas. Would I do it today? NO way--but I can afford to pay. They couldn't--or thought they couldn't.

[Anonymous]

Not a big deal. Like someone said, it depends on how long. It's fine for a night. Not weird at all to have your father in the room, he's your dad and your children's grandfather. It's nice that they embrace you and your children. Your kids will have fond memories. When they get bigger, then you'll need a second room because they will want more privacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not weird for you to share a hotel room with your father.

At the same time it's totally normal for five people across three generations to want to split up among two different hotel rooms. Just say you think everyone would be more comfortable with a little more space.

+1

[Anonymous]

It's fine if you have to, not ideal though. I would also prefer to get my own hotel room. Do it, if you'd rather!

[Anonymous]

I find it strange that you think it's strange to share a room (with your own mother, and two children) with your own father. What makes it strange?

[Anonymous]

Not weird at all.

[Anonymous]

Are they wanting/needing you to pay for part of their room?

What about a suite?

[Anonymous]

I shared a room with my parents when I was about 30 for a few days in Puerto Rico (I tagged along on a trip with them), but that was pre-kids.

More recently, we all traveling together and got adjoining rooms which worked really well. We could move freely between the two rooms for visiting/plans, but also had the ability to put DS down for a nap or early bedtime in one room and hang out in the other.

There weren't financial considerations though.

[Anonymous]

The sharing a bathroom with my father would be a bigger deal breaker for me than sharing a hotel room. Sorry dad, don't want to wait an hour (plus the half hour for airing out) to use the restroom while you're having your morning constitutional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not weird for you to share a hotel room with your father.

At the same time it's totally normal for five people across three generations to want to split up among two different hotel rooms. Just say you think everyone would be more comfortable with a little more space.

I agree with this. I just shared a hotel room with my dad for three nights and didn't think twice about it. But I wouldn't want five people in one room!