used to be a lesbian, now just a mom in a two mom family
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Anonymous
| I would like to think of myself as still somewhat edgy, but in fact am boring as hell. We're just doing the daily grind of daycare pick up and drop off and hoping the daycare germs will spare us another round of colds. I feel. .. assimilated. Anyone else want to share how motherhood has changed your perception of yourself? And has anyone else read The Argonauts? I feel like an especially uncool lesbian mom after reading that. |
Anonymous
| I havent read the Argonauts nor am I a lesbian, but I am nowhere near as cool as I used to be. I wear Toms shoes, for god's sake. |
Anonymous
| Kids need boring. We call it routine and stability. Being on the edge for the sake of edginess is childish. Besides, your edge is still there. Use it for your fashion sense or your hobbies. |
Anonymous
Words of wisdom. |
Anonymous
OP here. Stable and routine sounds so much better than boring. 
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Anonymous
| I think this speaks GOOD things about the time and place where you live. Not so long ago in many places your family would have had plenty of excitement following it, almost all of it bad. People were not accepting of gay families. Fear isn't something any family wants around. I'll take boring please. |
Anonymous
| I felt that way for a few years, then my wife had and affair and we got divorced. Things are more interesting now, but I wish we had been able to work it out-especially for our kid. And, I'm meeting a ton of divorced lesbian moms, so I'd suggest enjoying what you've got. |
Anonymous
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You sound really immature.
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Anonymous
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This is marriage with kids...and growing old.
Happens to everyone, no matter what kind of flavor you like. |
Anonymous
| Well I used to be a mom in a husband and wife relationship, now I'm a lesbian and divorced, lol everyone feels like you do in marriage and raising kids. Do something for just you....before you totally lose yourself and hate your life. I feel like I lost myself over the years of child rearing, but in my specific story perhaps I never really knew myself. I don't know, just know lots of people feel how you do, find something that makes you happy and do that to get out of your funk. |
Anonymous
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I suggest planning exciting date nights at least once a week, to give you something different to look forward to. Each of you take turns planning a surprise date. It would be lots of fun to wonder all week what they have planned
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Anonymous
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Me too and sometimes I don't even have a name - I'm "(name of one of the kids's mom)". We recently found some photos of our pre-kid life and I realized I had forgotten what I even looked like back then - the edgy haircut, great body, frequent traveler, etc. But, I wouldn't ever go back. I love being my kids' mom.
Sometimes when lesbians who don't yet have kids talk to me about fitting in at daycare and school, it makes my smile. They don't yet realize that they will no longer be a lesbian once that baby comes along. |
Anonymous
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Another lesbian mom here. Yep, I definitely have more in common these days with the other soccer/swim team moms (straight) than I do with my childless lesbian friends. Ours lives are revolving around carpooling kids to various activities, making sure homework is done, signing kids up for camp, etc.
DW and I recently had an evening to ourselves (after 10y) and I had forgotten what we would do after work pre-kids (gym, errands, dinner, home at 9pm.) Now we are in bed by 9pm. 
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Anonymous
This is universal - I thinking maybe two people in both of my kids' preschool classes know my actual name. It's actually shocking when someone at the school addresses me by my name instead of Jane and John's mom.
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Anonymous
| So OP, is the Lesbian Death Bed a reality or a myth? |