Lamest reason
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Anonymous
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I am still married after facing serious challenges in our marriage. Doing therapy, and I do credit that with a lot of our ability to still be together.
But I also credit my engagement ring. It is a family ring that I don't want to give up, which I would if we were to divorce, and give it back to DH's family. So I kept working on our marriage, even when it felt damn near impossible. I kind of think this is shallow, but it is also kind of awesome. Anybody else have something that kept them together like that? NOT kids. |
Anonymous
| OP, staying married for a ring is definitely the lamest reason I have ever heard...at least you recognize this. You must be a very shallow individual, sorry! |
Anonymous
| I cannot fathom how that is awesome. At all. |
Anonymous
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Why is this lame? If you are doing it because of what represents .... Family , continuity etc. I've seen lamer reasons given here ....good fuck for eg |
Anonymous
Because it's extremely shallow. If your marriage is based on a piece of jewelry, you have issues. Period |
Anonymous
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It's awesome because it has kept me -in part- going.
I'm not actually that shallow. But I've become attached to the ring. |
Anonymous
| That is the lamest reason ever. Buy yourself a nice fake and move on. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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I stayed with my STBX for 9 years because I didn't want to face all the people who'd said marrying him was a bad idea.
Pride and fear of other people's judgments are both pretty lame reasons, IMO. And I don't even have a ring! 
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Anonymous
| Holy shit. No wonder your marriage is doing badly. You are committed to a PIECE OF JEWELRY more than your own or your husband's happiness. Just...just wow. |
Anonymous
| There is no such thing as a lame reason. People behave based on a complicated set of conscious and sub-conscious factors. Maybe neurotic but not lame. |
Anonymous
It's lame because it sounds like she likes the ring. She makes no mention of family or continuity etc. It's good she and her husband are in therapy. |
Anonymous
+1 No wonder your marriage is off the rails. |
Anonymous
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Don't listen to the haters, OP, and do whatever you need to do. There are plenty of spouses out there staying for the money, the social group, the spousal job prestige, the whatever. If a ring can spur you to efforts of good listening, civility and constructive criticism, then more power to you!!! |
Anonymous
In fairness OP did say they were in therapy so hopefully that can help get priorities right and she's able to rekindle the reasons she married him.- I'm assuming she didn't marry him for his family's money or something like that. |