SIL said she's sending gift for my kids' birthday...but 3 weeks later it hasn't arrived

[Anonymous]

3 weeks before my son's birthday, my SIL texts me asking for gift suggestions. I send them.

2 weeks before his birthday, she send a random envelope of pencils, notepads, and pipe-cleaner necklaces (?) saying, "this is for the pre-party!"

Day-of my son's birthday, she sends a text saying, "His gift is for the afterparty! It's still here!"

It's been 3 weeks... I don't want to be rude and put her on the spot by asking about it, but I also don't want to seem ungrateful if she's sent it and its lost in the mail (she keeps score when it comes to people being "ungrateful").

How would you approach?

[Anonymous]

I would wait

[Anonymous]

Is this really that important? People get busy, some people are disorganized. If your kid is upset just buy him a $10 toy somewhere and move on.

[Anonymous]

OP here - Nope, the gift itself isn't important. I just want to make sure she's thanked for the gift if she sent it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - Nope, the gift itself isn't important. I just want to make sure she's thanked for the gift if she sent it.

Sorry I missed that. Maybe just send a thank you note that's general "thanks for the birthday stuff" which includes the pipe cleaners, and if she asks that makes sense. But if it's lost it makes sense too.

[Anonymous]

I'd just ask. "SIL, you had mentioned that you were sending a birthday gift for Larlo. I just wanted to let you know that nothing has arrived so, if you did mail anything, you might need to check with the post office. Thanks again for the pre-party gifts!"

[Anonymous]

Send a thank you note for the "pre-party" items. By mentioned what you got, she'll know. If she sent more she'll ask why you didn't thank for those things too or if she forgot, this will trigger a memory.

[Anonymous]

Just thank her for what you got. You don't need to be this petty LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just thank her for what you got. You don't need to be this petty LOL

This.

[Anonymous]

My sil does this all the time - usually it's that she's sending us xmas gifts that fail to arrive - one year they did come in July! I think wait another week

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd just ask. "SIL, you had mentioned that you were sending a birthday gift for Larlo. I just wanted to let you know that nothing has arrived so, if you did mail anything, you might need to check with the post office. Thanks again for the pre-party gifts!"

+1 it's not that complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just thank her for what you got. You don't need to be this petty LOL

This.

+1 The women of dcum...