Other family not booking beach hotel. Do they just not want to go?

[Anonymous]

We are supposed to go away with a family to NJ Beach for Memorial Day weekend. They are the ones who asked us about a month ago. We have emailed back and forth and texted back and forth and picked a hotel. She will text me and talk about this trip and then she doesn't book. I told her to email me her confirmation and I will book right after.

Does she just not want to go?

Our other friends just invited us to Rehoboth the same weekend. I mentioned it to other friend and she still wants to go to NJ with us but still does not book. Ugh.

Why would someone wait so long? You do need to put a 50% deposit. I doubt it is money. Her DH makes good money. I know they paid for their house in cash so a few hundred dollars should be nothing for them.

[Anonymous]

Can't you just go to NJ by yourself? So what if your friends dont end up booking? You will still have fun with your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't you just go to NJ by yourself? So what if your friends dont end up booking? You will still have fun with your family.

We would go to Rehoboth with DS's friend from preschool if we don't go to NJ with my friend. NJ trip is with my friend. Rehoboth is DS's friend.

[Anonymous]

I would just give her a date by which she needs to book or you will make other plans. You can keep the message light but be clear that if no booking happens by that date, you will not be joining her.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is waiting for you to book? Why does she have to go first?

Perhaps instead of texting you can get on the phone and discuss it with her - just tell her you both need to book now (since memorial day is in a couple of weeks anyway).

[Anonymous]

Good luck getting rooms this close to Memorial Day. I tried booking beach hotels about a month ago for that weekend and everything was booked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can't you just go to NJ by yourself? So what if your friends dont end up booking? You will still have fun with your family.

We would go to Rehoboth with DS's friend from preschool if we don't go to NJ with my friend. NJ trip is with my friend. Rehoboth is DS's friend.

You are making a vacation destination choice based on DS "friend" from preschool? Seriously? I have a preschooler. Their friendships outside of school are all based on which parents I like/get along with.

Do you just want to go to Rehoboth more than NJ--i.e. the better offer came along too late--and you are using this hotel booking thing as an excuse to get out of NJ? If the people you are supposed to go to NJ with said they are booking a hotel and you are supposed to go, why not just trust that they will go and continue with your plan?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can't you just go to NJ by yourself? So what if your friends dont end up booking? You will still have fun with your family.

We would go to Rehoboth with DS's friend from preschool if we don't go to NJ with my friend. NJ trip is with my friend. Rehoboth is DS's friend.

You are making a vacation destination choice based on DS "friend" from preschool? Seriously? I have a preschooler. Their friendships outside of school are all based on which parents I like/get along with.

Do you just want to go to Rehoboth more than NJ--i.e. the better offer came along too late--and you are using this hotel booking thing as an excuse to get out of NJ? If the people you are supposed to go to NJ with said they are booking a hotel and you are supposed to go, why not just trust that they will go and continue with your plan?

We are obviously friends with the family. Kids have been in same preschool class for 3 years. We hang out with them about once a week. We went on vacation with them once before and had a good time.

My friend who is not booking was my friend before we had kids.

[Anonymous]

We are obviously friends with the family. Kids have been in same preschool class for 3 years. We hang out with them about once a week. We went on vacation with them once before and had a good time.

My friend who is not booking was my friend before we had kids.

Make a decision and stick to it. I'd ask my friend f she would rather do this another time. Sounds like it.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't travel with others like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't travel with others like that.

+1

I have a list of friends that I love, but do not travel with. Something like this would get you put on the list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

We are obviously friends with the family. Kids have been in same preschool class for 3 years. We hang out with them about once a week. We went on vacation with them once before and had a good time.

My friend who is not booking was my friend before we had kids.

Make a decision and stick to it. I'd ask my friend f she would rather do this another time. Sounds like it.

Thing is we had lunch with them 1.5 weeks ago and she brought it up again. She reconfirmed and said she would book. Then she wished me Mother's Day and mentioned trip again. Why isn't she booking?!?!?!

[Anonymous]

Can you just ask her? Does she know you are waiting to hear from her before booking? I am a little flighty and have ADD and it takes me forever to actually do something like make a call or book a hotel. You'll just have to ask her if she is waiting for something or if she is ready to book today. Or offer to do it for her.

[Anonymous]

Just ask her flat out - you keep mentioning this trip but you seem reluctant to pull the trigger and book it. Are you sure it's something your family wants to do? Please don't feel obligated because of us, but if you really don't want to go now, please tell me honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just ask her flat out - you keep mentioning this trip but you seem reluctant to pull the trigger and book it. Are you sure it's something your family wants to do? Please don't feel obligated because of us, but if you really don't want to go now, please tell me honestly.

I gave her an out when we saw them last week. She texted me Friday saying she will book. Then she wished me happy mother's day yesterday but did not book yet. I just don't get her hesitation to pull the trigger. Does she not realize it is a holiday weekend and hotels will be sold out? I don't want to badger her. I am ok with not going to NJ. Rehoboth is closer. I just don't want her to get mad that I made other plans when we already had plans with her.