I hate Mother's Day

[Anonymous]

No, I am not DH's mother. However our DC is not yet old enough to make reservations or go shopping.

DH asked what I wanted for Mother Day's. I asked for one thing for tomorrow--to not be the person making the reservations. I gave him a list of ideas more than a month ago. He took notes.

On Tuesday he texted me to ask what I want to do for Mother's Day.

Um...not spend the evening seeing if any of the places I had suggested a month ago still had openings. Which they did not. Or come up with an alternate plan.

I'm in charge of everything 24/7/365 (this is at his request--he simply let inertia take over given the chance.) I wanted one day where I wasn't in charge.

Next year, I'm not even going to try.

[Anonymous]

I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.

[Anonymous]

He told you that you couldn't see your own mother???!?!!

[Anonymous]

Wtf ladies. You all make me happy to be divorced. My mothers days are so lovely. Tell these asshats of husbands to step up. Why let yourself be treated like dirt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.

You're not ALLOWED to go see your mom? Jesus

[Anonymous]

Husband: "I'm not making any plans. You decide."

WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.

Are you the poster who is her husband's slave and can't do anything without his approval?

[Anonymous]

I have a wonderful husband. He is my best friend, totally devoted and has my back. He is an awesome father/co parent. He is an awesome dishwasher.

He is not romantic in the traditional sense. He has never been. We've been together 15 years. Here's what I do: make the reservations I want, make the spa appointments I want, buy myself the new shoes/necklace whatever I've had my eye on. I allow myself to splurge where I would otherwise feel too guilty too. It works really well. All those gift expectations/let down just aren't worth it.

[Anonymous]

AnonymousWhy let yourself be treated like dirt?[/quote wrote:

Women are biologically programmed to pursue assholes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.

Are you the poster who is her husband's slave and can't do anything without his approval?

I don't think I'm the slave poster you are talking about, because I've not posted about this before, but I'm also not allowed to do anything or buy anything without my husband's approval. It did not start out this way, it evolved.

[Anonymous]

My kid came home from daycare with a handmade card with her photo in it (she didn't make it; she is too young). I'm good with that. Sometimes it's good not to have a DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.

Are you the poster who is her husband's slave and can't do anything without his approval?

I don't think I'm the slave poster you are talking about, because I've not posted about this before, but I'm also not allowed to do anything or buy anything without my husband's approval. It did not start out this way, it evolved.

Define buy anything. Did you do something to get him to have this method of buying anything? I can't imagine this came out of the blue.

Yes, it is not right that he won't let you out of the house to see your own mother. That is controlling and possessive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just asked to be able to sleep in and him get up with the kids, and then me take the kids to my mom's for the day, him included only if he wanted. I was told no to all. I had to tell my mom I wasn't allowed to see her on mother's day.

WTF? Take your kids to your moms if that's what you want to do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid came home from daycare with a handmade card with her photo in it (she didn't make it; she is too young). I'm good with that. Sometimes it's good not to have a DH.

Sweet. Happy Mother's Day!

[Anonymous]

My husband is taking kids to meet his mom for breakfast. I am not going. Love him. Having lunch with my parents and then chilling out for the rest of the day. Low key. Very nice. We are trying to pay down some debt so I asked him to keep it to cards only, maybe some flowers from the grocery store.