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Anonymous
| A few people I am close to act like they are on my side most of the time, but then say things out of the blue that seem like a sniper attack. I feel like I can't confide as much because I'm afraid people will use what I say against me to insult me. Should I say something, or not confide as much in them? I don't want to rock the boat but I also don't want to be a doormat. I feel like even people I trusted are not so trustworthy anymore which sucks. Why do people act this way? |
Anonymous
| Don't tell them anything other than superficial bs |
Anonymous
| Without specifics vs this super vague note I can't help you |
Anonymous
| I would draw draw stronger boundaries. |
Anonymous
| Don't confide in them anymore. You've seen how they act so don't give them any ammunition. |
Anonymous
Yep. My MIL is known for her zingers and mean remarks, while other times acting nice. I just avoid her and talk about the weather. Sad. I wish we could have a relationship. But after 20 years I just gave up. |
Anonymous
| You may be oversensitive. |
Anonymous
| Some people are rude and others are stupid. If you find someone who is both these things, you may get them staying stuff which is insensitive and hurtful to you. That's life, unfortunately. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Don't confide. One way to know who you can trust is to be quiet and listen. If they talk trash about others, they'll talk trash about you too. Act accordingly. |
Anonymous
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Don't confide
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Anonymous
Same here. |
Anonymous
Me too. |
Anonymous
+1 Same here. Mil has always been this way, so it is not her age. She is just bitter and nasty, and nothing will ever change that. |
Anonymous
| Same here. I notice it most among the NPD types. Anything you tell them they will turn around and use against you at some point. Don't confide in people who do that. Don't give them ammo. Keep up stronger boundaries and keep things on a superficial level. |