Didnt find out the sex.

[Anonymous]

So at my 20 week appt my husband and I chose not to find out the sex and just had a 24 week appt today and am pretty sure the Nurse Practioner (not our regular Dr) slipped and told me what it was. After she referred to the baby by sex when listening to the heartbeat she then asked me if I found out the sex, when I told her no, she said "Oh I dont know what it is either". Is the sex listed in our chart is there a way she can tell? Did she slip or did she really not know? I feel this is something that should be listed pretty boldly in ones chart and would like to call and complain if so, any ideas? thanks.

[Anonymous]

We didn't find out the sex either, but the tech at the 20 week appointment referred to the baby as "her" and "she" while she was showing us the organs, body parts, and whatnot. The tech explained that she just does that -- refers to the baby as a girl, but it didn't mean anything. Maybe your nurse practitioner is the same way.

Also, at the end of the ultrasound appointment, we still didn't want to know the sex, but I thought maybe I would change my mind before the end. So, I asked the tech if she could write in my chart if the baby was a boy or girl, so that if I changed my mind it was something I could just ask my OB. She said that they couldn't record that information because if it was recorded in my file, then that meant I wanted to know. So it was never -- as far as I know -- written down anywhere. Hoping your situation is similar.

[Anonymous]

I didn't find out the gender either. The tech did not write it in my chart so even the doctors did not know. The surprise is the best!

[Anonymous]

Yikes. That sucks if she did that. We didn't find out either with #1 and I would have been PISSED.
I don't know if it says it anywhere, though I always wondered.
My very uneducated opinion is that if she referred to it as a "she" then there might be a better chance that she knew versus a "he" since for some reason "he"is used as a lot more of a generic term. I find myself using "he" all the time and we have no idea what it is. People feel weird saying "it".
I hope she didn't spill the beans, but I'm guessing it happens.

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/50948.page

I posted this a month ago. I dont know if I know or not, I've just been proceeding with my life as if it never happened. Better not to confirm it - that way, its still a surprise.

[Anonymous]

Just saw my OB today after my sonogram last week. He asked if I had found out the gender and I said no. Then I asked him, "Do YOU know?" and he said no, they don't write it anywhere on the report, so he had no idea, either. We had our ultrasound performed at Washington Radiology Associates, so if yours was done there, then in all likelihood the sex is not marked on the official report.

[Anonymous]

OP here, thanks to all for your comments, appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

With both my kids I chose not to find out the sex. I switched OBs late in my second trimester in my second pregnancy. As a result I requested the records from my first pregnancy and my second pregnancy. No where in my charts did it list the sex of the babys.

[Anonymous]

I am going to Reiter Hill Johnson and did my 20 week u/s there. They also told me they didn't write down the gender in my file.

[Anonymous]

I go to GT and did not find out. Like others, I asked my dr if it was on my chart and the response was NO.

It is probably just how the person refers to the unborn child.

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine chose not to find out but was convinced that the tech slipped that it was a boy. She later decided to find out on a subsequent sonagram and it's a girl...so I don't think that the tech had slipped at all but was probably using a generic term.