My ex husband is getting another divorce and I feel....

[Anonymous]

Really sad for him. Unexpectedly sad. The divorce with me was my idea as I was in love with someone else. But now he's getting his second divorce and we are only 36. I don't think I should reach out because we haven't spoken. But I feel sad for him. Having to go through that twice. Is this normal?

[Anonymous]

If you're not on speaking terms don't reach out to him.

Why are you feeling sad? For all you know he could have asked for this divorce because he " was in love with someone else."

No matter what the last person he wants to hear from his ex who dumped him for new dick.

[Anonymous]

No, don't reach out. I don't see how you could make him feel better, especially since it seems you dumped him for another man. At best, your words will be heard as pity.

Is it strange you feel sad? No, but I think it's really just guilt masquerading as sadness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, don't reach out. I don't see how you could make him feel better, especially since it seems you dumped him for another man. At best, your words will be heard as pity.

Is it strange you feel sad? No, but I think it's really just guilt masquerading as sadness.

PP here. Exactly!

[Anonymous]

It's odd to be married and divorced twice by 36. My guess is he is the common denominator and needs to figure out how he keeps ending up with incompatible women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's odd to be married and divorced twice by 36. My guess is he is the common denominator and needs to figure out how he keeps ending up with incompatible women.

Blame him for his first wife cheating on him. Great idea.

[Anonymous]

My guess is he probably married his second wife to quickly, just wanting to feel like he was desirable.

Unfortunately for him he now has 2 divorces under his belt meaning most sane women will not be interested.


OP, how do you even know this information? You don't speak. You don't have kids. You didn't love him, so why are you keeping tabs on him?

[Anonymous]

NO OP ...do not reach out. It would be mean to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is he probably married his second wife to quickly, just wanting to feel like he was desirable.

Unfortunately for him he now has 2 divorces under his belt meaning most sane women will not be interested.


OP, how do you even know this information? You don't speak. You don't have kids. You didn't love him, so why are you keeping tabs on him?

That's bull. If he's handsome enough and has money, there will literally be a line waiting to be Mrs. #3. He pulled it off twice, maybe three is the charm.

It's all good, OP. We all have problems. Divorce is nothing compared to other things. He hasn't lost a loved one. He doesn't have stage 4 brain cancer. He'll be just fine, and so will you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, don't reach out. I don't see how you could make him feel better, especially since it seems you dumped him for another man. At best, your words will be heard as pity.

Is it strange you feel sad? No, but I think it's really just guilt masquerading as sadness.

PP here. Exactly!

Yep, this. I think if OP really thinks about it, she's hoping that if she reaches out, he'll give her some reassurance that it isn't her fault and he isn't bitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is he probably married his second wife to quickly, just wanting to feel like he was desirable.

Unfortunately for him he now has 2 divorces under his belt meaning most sane women will not be interested.


OP, how do you even know this information? You don't speak. You don't have kids. You didn't love him, so why are you keeping tabs on him?

That's bull. If he's handsome enough and has money, there will literally be a line waiting to be Mrs. #3. He pulled it off twice, maybe three is the charm.

It's all good, OP. We all have problems. Divorce is nothing compared to other things. He hasn't lost a loved one. He doesn't have stage 4 brain cancer. He'll be just fine, and so will you.

The qualifier was sane.

[Anonymous]

Yes it's normal. There's a very high divorce rate for second marriages.

[Anonymous]

Well, he's definitely not a good catch.

[Anonymous]

It's OK to feel sad. I get it. I feel sad for my XH sometimes. So if you are asking if feeling that way is normal, I think it can be, yes.

[Anonymous]

Would you consider giving him some sexual comfort? Seriously that seems to be the only thing I think would be useful for him both physically and emotionally knowing he could get one over on your current spouse (assuming he's the one you left him for). Give it a shot.