New job and worried new boss doesn't like me

[Anonymous]

I started a new job in January. I worked in the same job as some variety or another for approximately 10 years. I left for a variety of reasons, I was bored, better salary, career advancement. I could have stayed at that job forever. They loved me and were really disappointed I was leaving, tried to get me to stay, but couldn't match my new salary.

My new boss is very hard on me. Always redoing things I have done, telling me I am wrong, asking me to draft things so she can review before it goes out. I never experienced this at my other job.

I'm concerned she doesn't "like" me. (Not personally but as an employee). (I don't have a review until a year) am worried about getting fired or that I made a huge mistake. I'm an attorney in house if it makes a difference and it would be a huge problem if I got fired. Am I being over sensitive? Is this just how new jobs are?

In general I like the job but it seems as if this individual is just never happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I started a new job in January. I worked in the same job as some variety or another for approximately 10 years. I left for a variety of reasons, I was bored, better salary, career advancement. I could have stayed at that job forever. They loved me and were really disappointed I was leaving, tried to get me to stay, but couldn't match my new salary.

My new boss is very hard on me. Always redoing things I have done, telling me I am wrong, asking me to draft things so she can review before it goes out. I never experienced this at my other job.

I'm concerned she doesn't "like" me. (Not personally but as an employee). (I don't have a review until a year) am worried about getting fired or that I made a huge mistake. I'm an attorney in house if it makes a difference and it would be a huge problem if I got fired. Am I being over sensitive? Is this just how new jobs are?

In general I like the job but it seems as if this individual is just never happy.

I'm sorry. Some people are awful. I know people like your boss. They think they are the saviors of every project, and putting others down is just one way they make their own efforts seem more Herculean. If they praise anyone it's only when they can take credit for their work.

There is no benefit to pleasing these types. Either look for a new job or develop a thick skin and realize this isn't about you, but how your boss sucks as both a manager and a person.

[Anonymous]

How does she treat her other direct reports? If you can develop a friendly rapport with one of your coworkers, you can ask if this is normal behavior or a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I started a new job in January. I worked in the same job as some variety or another for approximately 10 years. I left for a variety of reasons, I was bored, better salary, career advancement. I could have stayed at that job forever. They loved me and were really disappointed I was leaving, tried to get me to stay, but couldn't match my new salary.

My new boss is very hard on me. Always redoing things I have done, telling me I am wrong, asking me to draft things so she can review before it goes out. I never experienced this at my other job.

I'm concerned she doesn't "like" me. (Not personally but as an employee). (I don't have a review until a year) am worried about getting fired or that I made a huge mistake. I'm an attorney in house if it makes a difference and it would be a huge problem if I got fired. Am I being over sensitive? Is this just how new jobs are?

In general I like the job but it seems as if this individual is just never happy.

Based on this writing sample, I can understand the need for reviewing your drafts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I started a new job in January. I worked in the same job as some variety or another for approximately 10 years. I left for a variety of reasons, I was bored, better salary, career advancement. I could have stayed at that job forever. They loved me and were really disappointed I was leaving, tried to get me to stay, but couldn't match my new salary.

My new boss is very hard on me. Always redoing things I have done, telling me I am wrong, asking me to draft things so she can review before it goes out. I never experienced this at my other job.

I'm concerned she doesn't "like" me. (Not personally but as an employee). (I don't have a review until a year) am worried about getting fired or that I made a huge mistake. I'm an attorney in house if it makes a difference and it would be a huge problem if I got fired. Am I being over sensitive? Is this just how new jobs are?

In general I like the job but it seems as if this individual is just never happy.

Based on this writing sample, I can understand the need for reviewing your drafts.

Not the OP but that's not nice. There is a big difference between a professional document and DCUM. Also, the person could have been posting from their phone. How is this helpful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I started a new job in January. I worked in the same job as some variety or another for approximately 10 years. I left for a variety of reasons, I was bored, better salary, career advancement. I could have stayed at that job forever. They loved me and were really disappointed I was leaving, tried to get me to stay, but couldn't match my new salary.

My new boss is very hard on me. Always redoing things I have done, telling me I am wrong, asking me to draft things so she can review before it goes out. I never experienced this at my other job.

I'm concerned she doesn't "like" me. (Not personally but as an employee). (I don't have a review until a year) am worried about getting fired or that I made a huge mistake. I'm an attorney in house if it makes a difference and it would be a huge problem if I got fired. Am I being over sensitive? Is this just how new jobs are?

In general I like the job but it seems as if this individual is just never happy.

Based on this writing sample, I can understand the need for reviewing your drafts.

The way she wrote her OP is fine. Now scuttle back under your rock and stay there.

[Anonymous]

How does it come across -- does it seem like she's just a particular person who wants things done a certain way and since you don't know that way yet, she must stay involved (i.e. review your drafts etc.) -- i.e. does she seem like she's "teaching" you (whether she is or not - is that her intent)? Or is she demeaning and rude about it? I think sorting that would will give you answers re how it's really going and whether you need to be thinking about other options.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you ask her to if she would be willing to discuss her thoughts on your job performance? You could tell her that you understand your job review isn't until after a year, however, if there are areas you could improve on, you'd like to know so you can start working on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I started a new job in January. I worked in the same job as some variety or another for approximately 10 years. I left for a variety of reasons, I was bored, better salary, career advancement. I could have stayed at that job forever. They loved me and were really disappointed I was leaving, tried to get me to stay, but couldn't match my new salary.

My new boss is very hard on me. Always redoing things I have done, telling me I am wrong, asking me to draft things so she can review before it goes out. I never experienced this at my other job.

I'm concerned she doesn't "like" me. (Not personally but as an employee). (I don't have a review until a year) am worried about getting fired or that I made a huge mistake. I'm an attorney in house if it makes a difference and it would be a huge problem if I got fired. Am I being over sensitive? Is this just how new jobs are?

In general I like the job but it seems as if this individual is just never happy.

Based on this writing sample, I can understand the need for reviewing your drafts.

Are you her boss? Goodness what's with the rude response? I swear some people are just so miserable huh!

OP- I suggest requesting a meeting with your boss and ask for constructive feedback on the past documents she has reviewed. In that meeting emphasize your desire to submit high quality documents to meet her expectations so that she will feel more confident in your skills. Make it sound as if you don't want to add any extra burden on her to always review your work.
You make sure you follow through with your boss recommendation.
It's both a humble approach and also shows your eagerness to be an excellent employee.

[Anonymous]

Maybe this method is her way of training you to produce work the way they want it done?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I started a new job in January. I worked in the same job as some variety or another for approximately 10 years. I left for a variety of reasons, I was bored, better salary, career advancement. I could have stayed at that job forever. They loved me and were really disappointed I was leaving, tried to get me to stay, but couldn't match my new salary.

My new boss is very hard on me. Always redoing things I have done, telling me I am wrong, asking me to draft things so she can review before it goes out. I never experienced this at my other job.

I'm concerned she doesn't "like" me. (Not personally but as an employee). (I don't have a review until a year) am worried about getting fired or that I made a huge mistake. I'm an attorney in house if it makes a difference and it would be a huge problem if I got fired. Am I being over sensitive? Is this just how new jobs are?

In general I like the job but it seems as if this individual is just never happy.

Based on this writing sample, I can understand the need for reviewing your drafts.

Are you her boss? Goodness what's with the rude response? I swear some people are just so miserable huh!

OP- I suggest requesting a meeting with your boss and ask for constructive feedback on the past documents she has reviewed. In that meeting emphasize your desire to submit high quality documents to meet her expectations so that she will feel more confident in your skills. Make it sound as if you don't want to add any extra burden on her to always review your work.
You make sure you follow through with your boss recommendation.
It's both a humble approach and also shows your eagerness to be an excellent employee.

This is good advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I started a new job in January. I worked in the same job as some variety or another for approximately 10 years. I left for a variety of reasons, I was bored, better salary, career advancement. I could have stayed at that job forever. They loved me and were really disappointed I was leaving, tried to get me to stay, but couldn't match my new salary.

My new boss is very hard on me. Always redoing things I have done, telling me I am wrong, asking me to draft things so she can review before it goes out. I never experienced this at my other job.

I'm concerned she doesn't "like" me. (Not personally but as an employee). (I don't have a review until a year) am worried about getting fired or that I made a huge mistake. I'm an attorney in house if it makes a difference and it would be a huge problem if I got fired. Am I being over sensitive? Is this just how new jobs are?

In general I like the job but it seems as if this individual is just never happy.

Based on this writing sample, I can understand the need for reviewing your drafts.

Are you her boss? Goodness what's with the rude response? I swear some people are just so miserable huh!

OP- I suggest requesting a meeting with your boss and ask for constructive feedback on the past documents she has reviewed. In that meeting emphasize your desire to submit high quality documents to meet her expectations so that she will feel more confident in your skills. Make it sound as if you don't want to add any extra burden on her to always review your work.
You make sure you follow through with your boss recommendation.
It's both a humble approach and also shows your eagerness to be an excellent employee.

This is good advice.

In practice, this is an invitation to be bullied more by an abusive boss who is getting an even clearer signal that OP is prepared to grovel for her approval. I'd think carefully before embracing that power dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Thank you all for you responses. I have heard from other people on my team she is very tough to work for, and very hard on written work especially.