Emotionally Abuse

[Anonymous]

Almost daily.

Lots of sorry and insight after the fact about why this happens. However, it doesn't take long before it starts again. It's bad. My fear is my young child. On the one hand, I don't want them to grow up thinking this is acceptable. On the other hand, we're divorced, who will be there to protect the child when he starts gettin this behavior. Then there's a challenges of raising a child as a single parent, with snow closures, daycare drop off and pick up, etc.

Really torn about what to do.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, I don't know. Do you have friends or family who have your back? You may be surprised how unexpectedly helpful people may be. My roommate/friend told his friends about my asshole partner. And roommate's friends, who hardly know me, offered me both babysitting and a nearly free place to stay for a while.

Also, there are posts on this board, in the general parenting section about "how do single parents do it?" That may be a helpful read.

[Anonymous]

Do you think they are willing to change at all, even if they don't know how? Or are they just a big mess?

Because therapy and tactics used to disengage from arguments can help. But both spouses need to be truly willing. Most emotionally abusive people are a big mess inside and can't focus on trying to get better.

[Anonymous]

Verbal/Emotional abuse can very well manifest itself into physical abuse if you stick around long enough.

It is unhealthy + toxic to live with a verbally abusive spouse, most especially when a young child is a huge part of the equation.

Do you have any relatives, close friends or helpful neighbors nearby who could offer any support here? Because like you stated it will not be an easy road to take, but I honestly see no other option.

The way the situation is now there is no possible way you can continue in this marriage.

[Anonymous]

I would consult with a lawyer just to figure out your options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Almost daily.

Lots of sorry and insight after the fact about why this happens. However, it doesn't take long before it starts again. It's bad. My fear is my young child. On the one hand, I don't want them to grow up thinking this is acceptable. On the other hand, we're divorced, who will be there to protect the child when he starts gettin this behavior. Then there's a challenges of raising a child as a single parent, with snow closures, daycare drop off and pick up, etc.

Really torn about what to do.

These are not the real challenges of single parenthood. These are minor details that can and get worked out.

If you are this miserable in the marriage, you need to divorce. It is that simple. I second the advice about seeing a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Verbal/Emotional abuse can very well manifest itself into physical abuse if you stick around long enough.

It is unhealthy + toxic to live with a verbally abusive spouse, most especially when a young child is a huge part of the equation.

Do you have any relatives, close friends or helpful neighbors nearby who could offer any support here? Because like you stated it will not be an easy road to take, but I honestly see no other option.

The way the situation is now there is no possible way you can continue in this marriage.

This is where I now...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Verbal/Emotional abuse can very well manifest itself into physical abuse if you stick around long enough.

It is unhealthy + toxic to live with a verbally abusive spouse, most especially when a young child is a huge part of the equation.

Do you have any relatives, close friends or helpful neighbors nearby who could offer any support here? Because like you stated it will not be an easy road to take, but I honestly see no other option.

The way the situation is now there is no possible way you can continue in this marriage.

This is where I now...

Agree-been there