Advice Needed/What Would You Do?

[Anonymous]

I have a partner who is struggling with a project we're working on together. Her work is receiving a bit of complaints from clients. Some her fault, some not. Some of it is clients being difficult. But still, she's getting complaints. And they're going to our boss.

I'm considering going to our boss and asking what we can do to support her. Friends have advised me not to go this route because it could be perceived as snitching instead of support. They suggested that it would be better to talk to the boss together so we appear to be a team. But it's really her project. I'm just there to help her. And frankly, I feel as if I'm being caught in the crossfire. I'm being judged on the outcome of this project just as she is. I'm not sure I want my name associated with it. I'd rather branch off and be given my own.

What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I once over heard a lawyer yelling at his secretary - stop bringing me problems! from now on, don't bring me a problem without bringing me a potential solution!

So don't go to your boss asking what they can do to support her. Come up with ways you can support your partner and ask the partner if those things would help and then implement them.

[Anonymous]

Are you the same poster who was put in charge of yout collegue's 1st airplane ride for a business trip?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once over heard a lawyer yelling at his secretary - stop bringing me problems! from now on, don't bring me a problem without bringing me a potential solution!

So don't go to your boss asking what they can do to support her. Come up with ways you can support your partner and ask the partner if those things would help and then implement them.

So are you saying I shouldn't go to the boss at all? Just try to work things through with her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the same poster who was put in charge of yout collegue's 1st airplane ride for a business trip?

No, I'm not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I once over heard a lawyer yelling at his secretary - stop bringing me problems! from now on, don't bring me a problem without bringing me a potential solution!

So don't go to your boss asking what they can do to support her. Come up with ways you can support your partner and ask the partner if those things would help and then implement them.

So are you saying I shouldn't go to the boss at all? Just try to work things through with her?

I would start with the partner for sure. Going to the boss should be a last resort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I once over heard a lawyer yelling at his secretary - stop bringing me problems! from now on, don't bring me a problem without bringing me a potential solution!

So don't go to your boss asking what they can do to support her. Come up with ways you can support your partner and ask the partner if those things would help and then implement them.

So are you saying I shouldn't go to the boss at all? Just try to work things through with her?

I would start with the partner for sure. Going to the boss should be a last resort.

Well I have tried talking to her, giving her advice. She seems receptive but pretty much does what she thinks is best but it's not helping things. In the meantime clients are going to the boss with complaints. (I know this because they tell me they're going to complain and I've been around when they've gone to complain but the boss doesn't seem to say much to her. They seem to despise her AND our boss so maybe he's too busy relating to her to reprimand her.)
So at this point it's not about going to him to complain. He already knows there are issues! It's more to figure out how I or we can support her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I once over heard a lawyer yelling at his secretary - stop bringing me problems! from now on, don't bring me a problem without bringing me a potential solution!

So don't go to your boss asking what they can do to support her. Come up with ways you can support your partner and ask the partner if those things would help and then implement them.

So are you saying I shouldn't go to the boss at all? Just try to work things through with her?

I would start with the partner for sure. Going to the boss should be a last resort.

Well I have tried talking to her, giving her advice. She seems receptive but pretty much does what she thinks is best but it's not helping things. In the meantime clients are going to the boss with complaints. (I know this because they tell me they're going to complain and I've been around when they've gone to complain but the boss doesn't seem to say much to her. They seem to despise her AND our boss so maybe he's too busy relating to her to reprimand her.)
So at this point it's not about going to him to complain. He already knows there are issues! It's more to figure out how I or we can support her.

Insert eye roll

[Anonymous]

OP you sound awful. Stop with pretending you are trying to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound awful. Stop with pretending you are trying to help.

If it's not trying to help, what is it Genius?