Where do I start? Intervention/rehab for sibling
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Anonymous
| Latest episode of excessive drinking seems to be a cry for help. I think we need to stage an intervention and I think he will need in house rehab. Where do I start? Other siblings are on board and parents seem receptive. TIA. |
Anonymous
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If you have a therapist of any sort, ask them.
If you have a good family doctor, they can advise. Do you know anyone in recovery? They will almost certainly leap to your assistance. Call Father Martin's Ashley. They will certainly help. 800-799-4673 If you are going it alone, do research first. Find good outpatient programs (Sibley) and inpatient. Give choices about where treatment is available and what kind. Do not give the choice of self-help. Don't point fingers. |
Anonymous
| From my experience, you also need to be prepared to cut ties if your sibling wont go. We all were asked to draft letters outlining how the drinking affected us and the repercussions of the family member not getting help, which included no more support, no more time with us, etc. Good luck, OP. |
Anonymous
This is a wee bit premature. OP's note suggests that it is the beginning, not really a great time to threaten. OP inpatient 30-day programs can be costly. Like 30k per month (not really covered by insurance). There are other programs like Phoenix House in Arlington, A New Beginning and Crossroads in FFX, which will also have a lot of good info. |
Anonymous
| Who is going to pay for this? Is sibling not married? I'm not sure how you can get sibling to spend their own money on rehab if they don't want to. |
Anonymous
The OP asked for helpful suggestions. Not an interrogation by a bunch of busybodies. Keep your yap from flappin'. |
Anonymous
| http://recoverycarepartner.com/recovery-services/#intervention is local and helpful. I wish you luck. I participated in an intervention that failed and it broke my heart in half. |
Anonymous
NP, but questions like this are helpful because they raise issues OP may not have contemplated yet. An intervention is far more complex than most people realize, and if done poorly, can do far more harm than good. |
Anonymous
How do you know it failed? No immediate effect? That happens. But very frequently the seed gets planted and there is delayed effect. That's a success too. In any event, you had the courage and compassion to try. That says a lot about you. |
Anonymous
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Agree with the PPs who say this is more complex than just telling the person how you feel and cutting ties if they won't go to rehab. In fact, if they go to rehab but aren't ready for it, you're probably wasting thousands of dollars. People who do intervention like this are trying to to make themselves feel less guilt. They say, "at least I tried!"
Real intervention is very slow and very time consuming/emotionally consuming. Many people wallow in a stage where they are not ready for change - even if they know there is a problem. So if it doesn't work out, instead of paying for rehab for someone who doesn't want it, pay for therapy for yourself to learn how to manage the feelings that come with all of this. This is a long, horrible road to go down and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. |