hours worked

[Anonymous]

In your spouse's field, is there a strong correlation between hours worked and salary? If you are in a field where prestige/fun greatly increases with hours worked but salary does not, how do you feel about your spouse working long hours?

[Anonymous]

My husband is a doctor in an ICU. He doesn't get paid more if he is there more hours, but sometimes he gets wrapped up in things and has trouble leaving. He just wants to be sure this procedure goes right or talk with this family one more time. I really try to be supportive. I know that he wouldn't be there if he didn't think it was important. But I also rind him that this is his only life and his kids only childhood and he deserves to take a break sometimes and see his family.
OTOH, I used to coach high school sports when I was in med school, and most of the other coaches were married men with kids at home. I made like $5k/yr working 20+ hours a week and traveling to competitions. Now that I am married, I wonder how their wives felt about the whole thing. I don't think I would be pleased.

[Anonymous]

I think you find your passion and literally work your ass off or approach work/career as a clock puncher.

Money is great, but not everything career wise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a doctor in an ICU. He doesn't get paid more if he is there more hours, but sometimes he gets wrapped up in things and has trouble leaving. He just wants to be sure this procedure goes right or talk with this family one more time. I really try to be supportive. I know that he wouldn't be there if he didn't think it was important. But I also rind him that this is his only life and his kids only childhood and he deserves to take a break sometimes and see his family.
OTOH, I used to coach high school sports when I was in med school, and most of the other coaches were married men with kids at home. I made like $5k/yr working 20+ hours a week and traveling to competitions. Now that I am married, I wonder how their wives felt about the whole thing. I don't think I would be pleased.

Sadly, the men were probably making more than you.

[Anonymous]

Why these weird open-minded questions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a doctor in an ICU. He doesn't get paid more if he is there more hours, but sometimes he gets wrapped up in things and has trouble leaving. He just wants to be sure this procedure goes right or talk with this family one more time. I really try to be supportive. I know that he wouldn't be there if he didn't think it was important. But I also rind him that this is his only life and his kids only childhood and he deserves to take a break sometimes and see his family.
OTOH, I used to coach high school sports when I was in med school, and most of the other coaches were married men with kids at home. I made like $5k/yr working 20+ hours a week and traveling to competitions. Now that I am married, I wonder how their wives felt about the whole thing. I don't think I would be pleased.

Sadly, the men were probably making more than you.

Hopefully. Because I made only slightly more than gas money to get to practice and competitions.