Help! 2nd grade DS peed in classroom.

[Anonymous]

My son brought his wet pant and underwear back home yesterday afternoon. He said he requested to go to bath room twice, but was rejected by his teacher. He had to peed in his pants in class room and he felt humiliated and the teacher was mad at him because he peed. We live in Fairfax County. Is this school rule that kids are not allowed to go to bathroom during the class? In his class, starting from 8:20 until 11:05(lunch starts), nobody is allow to go to bathroom. Is this a standard second grade class rule. Any of your kids’ classroom has alternative ways to handle bathroom issues?

[Anonymous]

I would email the teacher first to see what she says. If she confirms, I'd go to the principal about it.

[Anonymous]

Same thing happened to me.

[Anonymous]

OP, please start by talking to the teacher about

1. what the classroom rule is
2. what the teacher's version of events is

My opinion is that a second-grade teacher with a classroom rule that nobody is allowed to use the bathroom between the start of the school day and lunch is a second-grade teacher who will have to deal with a lot of -- well, clean-up issues. So it seems unlikely to me that this really is the classroom rule. But maybe it is, and in that case, if the teacher does not want to change the rule, then the next step is to talk to the principal.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely ridiculous that they did not allow him to go to the bathroom. I would go straight to the principals office file a complaint.

[Anonymous]

I think the rules are very confusing. My son holds it all day some days because he cannot figure out when he is allowed to use the bathroom. Reach out to the teacher and ask her to explain specifically when the kids are allowed. The big problem seems to be there is a limit on the number of kids who can use the bathroom at the same time. So if your kid does not speak up first, they never get to go.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure that I want to give the teacher the opportunity to do damage control with her boss. So I would probably go to the principal directly and then he or she can call the teacher into a conference with the two of you and then you can hear the teachers explanation with her boss present

[Anonymous]

I think you should get the teacher's side of the story. It could be that your child waited until the very last minute and then asked to use the bathroom twice in a 30 second time frame before wetting his pants. Ask the teacher first, and if you don't like what you're told, escalate to the principal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I'm not sure that I want to give the teacher the opportunity to do damage control with her boss. So I would probably go to the principal directly and then he or she can call the teacher into a conference with the two of you and then you can hear the teachers explanation with her boss present

And you are the parent all teachers & administrators love to hate.

[Anonymous]

The teacher is a bully. I'm sorry for your son. When my son told me that he was not allowed to use the bathroom when needed, I told him that he had my permission to leave the classroom and go if it was truly an emergency. I can't believe this shit goes on, but it does.

[Anonymous]

I would email the teacher to relate your son's side of the argument, cc-ing the principal. I would be clear on the fact that my son was humiliated and confused, and that you are both seeking clarity on bathroom rules so that it never happens again. If she responds with rules that seem to confusing, you can suggest simplifying the rules.

One of my most stinging memories from elementary school is peeing on the gym floor on my first day of school because I was too overwhelmed. I must have been in 2nd grade too.

[Anonymous]

too, not to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I'm not sure that I want to give the teacher the opportunity to do damage control with her boss. So I would probably go to the principal directly and then he or she can call the teacher into a conference with the two of you and then you can hear the teachers explanation with her boss present

What disrespect for the teacher's and principal's time to approach the situation this way. Surely this is a fake post…?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I'm not sure that I want to give the teacher the opportunity to do damage control with her boss. So I would probably go to the principal directly and then he or she can call the teacher into a conference with the two of you and then you can hear the teachers explanation with her boss present

What disrespect for the teacher's and principal's time to approach the situation this way. Surely this is a fake post…?!

+1
Automatically assuming that the teacher is your adversary is the worst thing you can do for your child's education. I've had the best luck treating the teacher like s/he and I are on the same team. The solution to this problem starts by emailing the teacher and asking what the bathroom policy is. If the teacher really is denying students trips to the bathroom, then you can include the principal in your communication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same thing happened to me.

Me too. 2nd grade. Please call the teacher.