How much fit between child's temperament and school?

[Anonymous]

Our daughter likes order. She wants to know the rules, follow the rules, and make sure that others are following the rules. She doesn't like it when other children make a big fuss at school or scream (although she's perfectly capable of doing those things at home); she says "it just doesn't make sense!" when describing how other kids were "using not nice words" and so on. That said, she is cheerful and adaptable. She doesn't brood over these things; she reports them with some bemusement.

I'm leaning toward sending her to a more traditional school with more structure and order because I think she would like that better. The environment would be more peaceful. But I'm wondering if I should try to go in the other direction, since she is reasonably flexible, and challenge her to operate in a more freeflowing, maybe even more chaotic environment. Any thoughts?

[Anonymous]

P.S. I have no problem with order, I just don't want her to REQUIRE an orderly environment to function as she gets older.

[Anonymous]

I don't have experience between different types of schools, so I can't speak to that issue. However, from the way you describe your daughter, it doesn't sound like she does require order to function. In other words, it ain't broke! I'm not trying to be flip and it's clear that you want the best for your daughter, but perhaps there's nothing to fix.

[Anonymous]

I guess you're right; I'm over-worrying. Thanks.