pre-engaged limbo

[Anonymous]

When is it enough? I wake up at 3 am because I cannot sleep.How long is it supposed to take to make a guy want to marry you?

[Anonymous]

There is no pre-engaged. There's only engaged or not. If you're not and you want to be engaged, propose to him. If he says no, leave and find someone new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When is it enough? I wake up at 3 am because I cannot sleep.How long is it supposed to take to make a guy want to marry you?

If your self esteem is that low, you shouldn't get married. You need to work on yourself, especially if you put so much weight on another person to find happiness. Why don't you find out if he wants to marry or not? If he says he doesn't know, needs more time,....then move on. I think it's fairly simple.

Are you in your 20's or 30's?

[Anonymous]

You can't *make* someone want to marry you.

When my DH and I started dating, I told him up front that if we were unsure about our relationship after a year that we should part ways. Not that we had to be engaged and planning a wedding after a year, but that we would know whether or not we were headed toward marriage. I was in my late 20s and he was in his early 30s. At that age, I didn't want to mess around and waste 2-3 years dating someone only to find out that he wasn't serious about me.

How long have you been dating your boyfriend? Is there a reason why you can't discuss this with him? Does he know that you want to marry him?

[Anonymous]

You can't "make a guy want to marry you".

Don't settle.

[Anonymous]

"pre-engaged?" doesn't that mean you aren't engaged? I'm pre-law means I'm not yet in the law program. Pre-cum means it isn't cum. Pre-vent means you can't vent about it yet. Pre-dict means don't be a dick about it.

[Anonymous]

Do you live together? How old are the two of you? how long have you dated?

[Anonymous]

This is the same poster who has been posting about this issue for weeks, right? The advice hasn't changed.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure the last time I heard someone say "pre-engaged" I was in HS -- and it was ridiculous then, too.

[Anonymous]

Is this Katie from Real Housewives of Potomac? If so, he has his reasons.

[Anonymous]

You moved in with him thinking it was a sign of commitment on his part, when in actuality it wasn't. He was open to moving in together because it was convenient You didn't have the confidence in the relationship to hash out a timeline for this stuff with him before moving in. He hasn't acted jazzed up about a future with you in a long time. You won't break up with him because, at this point, you have too much invested. You own furniture together and you have the same friends, and breaking up now would look too much like a divorce. If you get married, you'll always wonder what it would be like to be married to a man who dotes on you and prioritizes you.

Tell him to put up or shut up. If he doesn't, leave. Move on and find a man who values you. You deserve it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this Katie from Real Housewives of Potomac? If so, he has his reasons.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this Katie from Real Housewives of Potomac? If so, he has his reasons.

That was my first thought too. But honestly, that loser should be jumping to marry her. I wonder every time I watch it how she puts up with his balding, corny ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure the last time I heard someone say "pre-engaged" I was in HS -- and it was ridiculous then, too.

Complete with a promise ring!

[Anonymous]

Bring it up and be prepared to breakup of you don't hear what you want.