Dating in DC

[Anonymous]

Where do people in their 40s tend to meet interesting potential partners in DC? I am an attractive, worldly, divorced female in my late 40s with one child, and I have met very few interesting single men in my age category in recent years. I have tried internet dating a bit, but that hasn't been great. Most of the men I meet through work or through my child seem to be in reasonably strong relationships (I am opposed to dating a married man, in any case). We live in NW DC, and I would like to stay here, at least for the next several years. Any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

My only luck at the same age (with one 14 year old) has been using online dating. I have found some quality men on OKC. You just have to be direct in your profile stating that you are looking for a long-term monogamous relationship -- to weed out the guys looking for a hook-up.

[Anonymous]

And if you are looking for a long-term monogamous relationship, no sex on the first date.

[Anonymous]

I am 39 and childless and on okcupid. All these men in their 50s keep emailing me and it annoys me because really they should be emailing you. I don't respond - they are too old - but I'm sure they complain they can't meet women online when really they should be asking out women closer to their own age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 39 and childless and on okcupid. All these men in their 50s keep emailing me and it annoys me because really they should be emailing you. I don't respond - they are too old - but I'm sure they complain they can't meet women online when really they should be asking out women closer to their own age.

You're looking for, what, men 35 to 45? I guess that makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 39 and childless and on okcupid. All these men in their 50s keep emailing me and it annoys me because really they should be emailing you. I don't respond - they are too old - but I'm sure they complain they can't meet women online when really they should be asking out women closer to their own age.

Just so you are aware, you can configure your settings to limit the age groups that can see and contact you. If only there was a way to configure your settings to read out those who lie about their age or post old pictures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 39 and childless and on okcupid. All these men in their 50s keep emailing me and it annoys me because really they should be emailing you. I don't respond - they are too old - but I'm sure they complain they can't meet women online when really they should be asking out women closer to their own age.

Yes, I've come across men on OKC around my age who are only looking for considerably younger women. I know several never-married men around 50 who haven't given up the dream of having children of their own, so they probably see you as a good candidate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 39 and childless and on okcupid. All these men in their 50s keep emailing me and it annoys me because really they should be emailing you. I don't respond - they are too old - but I'm sure they complain they can't meet women online when really they should be asking out women closer to their own age.

Just so you are aware, you can configure your settings to limit the age groups that can see and contact you. If only there was a way to configure your settings to read out those who lie about their age or post old pictures.

It would be helpful if women followed the same rules. It's not exactly a great experience for guys either! Actually my impression is that large majority of the 40-48 women wouldn't consider guys 50+.

[Anonymous]

the men on OKC are creepy. and what qualifies you as "worldly"? if that's on your profile, consider deleting it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 39 and childless and on okcupid. All these men in their 50s keep emailing me and it annoys me because really they should be emailing you. I don't respond - they are too old - but I'm sure they complain they can't meet women online when really they should be asking out women closer to their own age.

Yes, I've come across men on OKC around my age who are only looking for considerably younger women. I know several never-married men around 50 who haven't given up the dream of having children of their own, so they probably see you as a good candidate.

No offense but 39 is on the outside edge of natural child birthing. I think they would look younger, but who knows. Most men and many women are not up on that stuff unless you have tried to have a children at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the men on OKC are creepy. and what qualifies you as "worldly"? if that's on your profile, consider deleting it.

OP here. Don't worry, I don't use the word "wordly" in my profile, but I did live abroad for quite a while and speak several languages.

[Anonymous]

I have met several interesting, worldly, well-educated men on OKC and have had a couple of months-long relationships with two of them, one of them ongoing. I'm 49. The guys I connected with are in their 50s. One of them was older than my desired age range, but I met him with an open mind and we clicked; went out for a few months. We're still friends.

Maybe read some books/blogs about how to improve your online dating profile and interactions. Don't give up on that. It's really the only way in this time and place to have access to a big enough pool of men our age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have met several interesting, worldly, well-educated men on OKC and have had a couple of months-long relationships with two of them, one of them ongoing. I'm 49. The guys I connected with are in their 50s. One of them was older than my desired age range, but I met him with an open mind and we clicked; went out for a few months. We're still friends.

Maybe read some books/blogs about how to improve your online dating profile and interactions. Don't give up on that. It's really the only way in this time and place to have access to a big enough pool of men our age.

Thanks for your advice. I'm glad to hear that it has worked out for you!