Married man going to lunch with single female inappropriate?

[Anonymous]

I'm a happily married man. Over the last year or so I have been going to lunch with a female colleague, 3 to 4 times a year. We are about the same age, in our mid 40s. She is well aware that I'm happily married but does not seem to be bothered by it. Truth is that I do find her attractive but no way I would do anything inappropriate. I enjoy her company and we talk about work, life, etc. I have never cheated on my wife of over 20 years, either emotionally or physically and I don't ever plan to. Do you think it is inappropriate for me to continue having the occasional lunch with her? Also, do you think she may be interested in me romantically even though she is aware about my situation? I would appreciate a lady's perspective on this. If she sees me as a good friend, then it may not be too risky to continue. If not, then probably best to stop. I have not discussed with my wife yet.

[Anonymous]

Why would you think she is romantically interested in you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you think she is romantically interested in you?

LOL. Typical guy.

[Anonymous]

What is the problem?

[Anonymous]

OP. I guess most women would not go out to lunch with a married man alone multiple times unless they had romantic intentions.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely inappropriate. Where are your boundaries?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. I guess most women would not go out to lunch with a married man alone multiple times unless they had romantic intentions.

Are you kidding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. I guess most women would not go out to lunch with a married man alone multiple times unless they had romantic intentions.

This is a shitty, sexist thing to say. If she was male, you wouldn't suspect attraction. You would just assume you were buddies. Women are allowed to engage in friendships with men without having ulterior motives. Maybe you should leave her alone for her own good.

[Anonymous]

Inappropriate for the married dude or the single woman or both?

[Anonymous]

Better question, what does your wife think?

[Anonymous]

Ask your wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. I guess most women would not go out to lunch with a married man alone multiple times unless they had romantic intentions.

You are correct. SAHM will not even schedule played with a SAHD because of the sexual tension. You are right to be concerned.

[Anonymous]

Would you invite your wife to lunch with your colleague?

[Anonymous]

Don't worry about this. It is fine to go to lunch with her occasionally. And you should not worry at all that she hsas romantic feelings about you. She sees you as somebody who she works with, kind of like a kind of brother.

[Anonymous]

This is why women can't get ahead at work. Because lunch with a co-worker 3-4 times a year has to be run by his wife.

Ridiculous.