MIL: so tacky!

[Anonymous]

MIL makes me cringe. She's so embarrassing to be around. She reminds me of Mrs. Bennet from Pride and Prejudice.

[Anonymous]

Good literary reference--nice shorthand so I know exactly what bugs you about her.

Think of that novel--the heroes (Elizabeth, Jane, Mr. Bennett) all ignore her/do their best to love her, and only "put her in her place" when it gets truly out of hand.

The villains and quasi-villains--Darcy before he grew a heart, the snobby society women--are the ones who mock her/call her out on her behavior.

Be a hero!

[Anonymous]

Please give us examples. How else are we to tear her down for you!

[Anonymous]

Examples, please, just for funsies/entertainment value, and to let you vent "safely!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MIL makes me cringe. She's so embarrassing to be around. She reminds me of Mrs. Bennet from Pride and Prejudice.

Mrs. B was tactless not tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MIL makes me cringe. She's so embarrassing to be around. She reminds me of Mrs. Bennet from Pride and Prejudice.

Mrs. B was tactless not tacky.

Tactless? As in says WTF she wants, when she wants, without regard for the fact that she is addressing another human being, OP?

We share the same MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good literary reference--nice shorthand so I know exactly what bugs you about her.

Think of that novel--the heroes (Elizabeth, Jane, Mr. Bennett) all ignore her/do their best to love her, and only "put her in her place" when it gets truly out of hand.

The villains and quasi-villains--Darcy before he grew a heart, the snobby society women--are the ones who mock her/call her out on her behavior.

Be a hero!

Actually Elizabeth acknowledges that much of the trouble the family has is because Mr. Bennett just roles his eyes but does not get involved. She blames his hands off parenting/partnership as much as she blames her mother's meddling.

Good luck with MIL, OP!

[Anonymous]

Nice reference, OP!

Limit contact. Move far away!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good literary reference--nice shorthand so I know exactly what bugs you about her.

Think of that novel--the heroes (Elizabeth, Jane, Mr. Bennett) all ignore her/do their best to love her, and only "put her in her place" when it gets truly out of hand.

The villains and quasi-villains--Darcy before he grew a heart, the snobby society women--are the ones who mock her/call her out on her behavior.

Be a hero!

omg I love you. Most sensible DCUM post ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good literary reference--nice shorthand so I know exactly what bugs you about her.

Think of that novel--the heroes (Elizabeth, Jane, Mr. Bennett) all ignore her/do their best to love her, and only "put her in her place" when it gets truly out of hand.

The villains and quasi-villains--Darcy before he grew a heart, the snobby society women--are the ones who mock her/call her out on her behavior.

Be a hero!

Actually Elizabeth acknowledges that much of the trouble the family has is because Mr. Bennett just roles his eyes but does not get involved. She blames his hands off parenting/partnership as much as she blames her mother's meddling.

Good luck with MIL, OP!

I agree with this. Remember that it pained Elizabeth how much Mr. Bennet's eyerolling and mocking his wife exposed her flaws. It created a contempt for her. Don't do that with you MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good literary reference--nice shorthand so I know exactly what bugs you about her.

Think of that novel--the heroes (Elizabeth, Jane, Mr. Bennett) all ignore her/do their best to love her, and only "put her in her place" when it gets truly out of hand.

The villains and quasi-villains--Darcy before he grew a heart, the snobby society women--are the ones who mock her/call her out on her behavior.

Be a hero!

omg I love you. Most sensible DCUM post ever.

+1. I would love to know you IRL, (P)PP.

You sound like a lovely person, with compassion, patience and class. Please tell me that you actually live in the DMV area, because that will give me hope!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good literary reference--nice shorthand so I know exactly what bugs you about her.

Think of that novel--the heroes (Elizabeth, Jane, Mr. Bennett) all ignore her/do their best to love her, and only "put her in her place" when it gets truly out of hand.

The villains and quasi-villains--Darcy before he grew a heart, the snobby society women--are the ones who mock her/call her out on her behavior.

Be a hero!

Ms. F? Is this you? I miss the discussions in your English class!

[Anonymous]

I always feel like such an outcast because I love my MIL. She is a wonderful and kind woman who loves me like her own. My DH is as awesome as he is because she raised him. Too often here I see that the DHs are awesome despite who raised them.

[Anonymous]

OMG, I hate that book. Chick lit. Who the heck decide to make that nonsense a classic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good literary reference--nice shorthand so I know exactly what bugs you about her.

Think of that novel--the heroes (Elizabeth, Jane, Mr. Bennett) all ignore her/do their best to love her, and only "put her in her place" when it gets truly out of hand.

The villains and quasi-villains--Darcy before he grew a heart, the snobby society women--are the ones who mock her/call her out on her behavior.

Be a hero!

omg I love you. Most sensible DCUM post ever.

+1. I would love to know you IRL, (P)PP.

You sound like a lovely person, with compassion, patience and class. Please tell me that you actually live in the DMV area, because that will give me hope!

I live in Crofton, but I used to live in Eastern Market...I swear! Originally from flyover country.

I must admit, my relationship with my MIL only improved in the last year when I learned to LET IT GO. We addressed two "big issues," and I let all the little things go. Life is much easier now.

And some other posters are absolutely right; Mr. B does not always treat his wife as a hero should. I think I was remembering more movie than novel; shame on me!