DWs, when did you know you wanted to become a mother?

[Anonymous]

We have now heard the man's answer for what age they knew they wanted to have a child. What about the DWs?
How long after the wedding did you want kids?

[Anonymous]

I didn't gat married until I warmed to the idea of having kids, at 34. Became a mother at 35.

[Anonymous]

36
had first at 37

[Anonymous]

4 years at age 27

[Anonymous]

When I met the right guy. I never had that urge until I was madly in love with the right guy. I was 34 when I got married. First kid at 35

[Anonymous]

Never. I had a child because DH really really wanted one.

[Anonymous]

Always. When I turned 25, I started dating only men who would likely make good fathers and who were not put off by hearing that I wanted kids in my early/mid 30s. Met DH later that year and married at 29, had DDs at 31 and 35. Many men were put off by this, but most of them ended up having kids in their early/mid 30s anyway, ha ha ha.

[Anonymous]

After I had our daughter. I never wanted children, but my husband did so I agreed to have a child. We love our only and are very happy being one and done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Always. When I turned 25, I started dating only men who would likely make good fathers and who were not put off by hearing that I wanted kids in my early/mid 30s. Met DH later that year and married at 29, had DDs at 31 and 35. Many men were put off by this, but most of them ended up having kids in their early/mid 30s anyway, ha ha ha.

I think sometimes if a woman talks about wanting kids really early on in the dating set up, its off putting because it may seem the kids are more important than developing a relationship with a guy. Not saying this was the case with you, just that sometimes that can be the assumption on their part and that's what scares them off.

[Anonymous]

When my nephew was born in my late 20s.

Unfortunately, no man ever asked me to marry him...but I got to motherhood eventually.

[Anonymous]

Around 28. had first DD at 29, second DS at 30.

[Anonymous]

Before marriage. I don't believe that you have to be married in order to have children.

[Anonymous]

Never. But fate said to hell with what I wanted and I had a little girl. She's wonderful but I don't want any more.

[Anonymous]

34. Single mother by choice. Somewhere between 33 and 34 the light bells in the background became clanging akin to the gong show. What sealed it for me was that I had done what I wanted to in life. I owned a 4bed 3.5 BA SFH inside the beltway. HHI was over $150k. I had gotten a Phd and spent time traveling the world. I had built my community and had been an active volunteer with Girl Scouts and helping in Title 1 schools by reading. I also volunteered in a women's abuse shelter helping kids with homework. One day I took stock of how I was choosing to spend my free time and it seemed to be all spent helping other children.

So I decided to have my own even though there was no man in the picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't gat married until I warmed to the idea of having kids, at 34. Became a mother at 35.

Same for me but baby delayed a year due to new job, became mom at 36.