Is 42 too late?
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Anonymous
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Found love late in life. My partner and I have been TTC with charting and OPKs for the past two months and have not had success (which did not surprise me at this age).
Has anyone out there naturally conceived at 42, and how long did it take? I went to a RE, and my number are pretty average for my age. Given that every single month, things are going downhill, I'm not sure how long to keep trying naturally. Any words of wisdom or advice much appreciated. |
Anonymous
| If this is something you really want, I wouldn't continue trying naturally. What did the RE recommend? You'll get some responses on here of people who did conceive naturally, or who knew someone who did, but the chance is actually really slim. If you can afford IVF, that is by far your best option. |
Anonymous
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I'd go straight to IVF if you really want kids. Don't mess around, just do it. Start looking into the process now, you can keep trying naturally in the mean time.
It's about $20k (at least) a round. But it's your best shot for a kid. |
Anonymous
| I would go for it. I had both kids naturally on the later side. If we could afford it, I would definitely go for #3. First conceived at 37 (first month of trying) and second conceived at 40 (took a bit longer b/c my cycle wasn't as regular from pumping for 13 months). If your cycle is farly regular use an ovulation predictor and go for it! |
Anonymous
| At this point, I'd go directly to the RE and see what they recommend. Too much to lose trying on your own. |
Anonymous
Sorry, I was reading so quickly didn't see the part where you said you used an OPK. The 2nd time it took about 5 months to conceive. |
Anonymous
| 42 is not too late. Get to the RE and keep trying on your own. I have friends who have had babies naturally at 42, 45 and 47. (Also some who were not able to get pregnant with their own eggs at a younger age.) |
Anonymous
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It's not too late. But proceed with RE right away, while keeping to try on your own. (Also check out natural cycle IVF. Don't let yourself be pushed into something you don't want, but also don't delay, if your numbers look good, and there are no issues, all you need is one good egg.)
Good luck! |
Anonymous
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Conceived without intervention at 41.5. But my experience won't help you. At the very least I'd get some tests done get a sense of your ovarian reserves, etc. Keep moving ahead with the OPK and charting, etc. but don't wait to get more knowledge about where both of you stand in terms of your fertility.
Good luck! I'm another one who found a partner late in life. Wish I was 10 years younger so I could have a few more children together, but I feel lucky to have what I have now. |
Anonymous
| Go to RE and good luck. Btw having numbers "good for your age" doesn't mean much. Either they are good or not. |
Anonymous
I This. We were glad we did. |
Anonymous
I did this too and IVF didn't help (2 rounds so far), not only BFNs but also nothing to freeze. IVF is not a magic potion. And 2 months is really nothing. I would prepare for IVF but try really hard for another 3-4 months. Also, what are average numbers for 42 yo? Is your AMH low and FSH high? |
Anonymous
IVF is not a magic potion, but it gives you the best odds. It's not a guarantee by any means. At 42, you can waste a year trying and then do IVF and your odds of IVF working are MUCH lower than they are now. If you want kids, time for the big guns. IVF is the big guns. If you are ok with the possibility ever increasing of never having children, keep trying on your own until you are ready. It's a personal choice. |
Anonymous
| Try on your own, but head to IVF. Preferably with PGS testing of the embryos. Don't waste time on IUI. You are at the margins of success with own-egg IVF so do not waste any time-from another 42-year old. |
Anonymous
| not too late, but be aggressive -- meaning, all options are on the table, including donor egg. |