travel anxiety

[Anonymous]

I have two kids--three year old and seven month old. My husband has said we can go away for a trip to celebrate my having the baby. I am really excited but am starting to feel anxiety about going on a plane..thinking things like tsunami or what if something happens and I can't get home and I know my hubby would love to scuba dive and I do think it would be cool. Should add that this is sans kids and I do think it's important for us to do something alone (have a great nanny to watch kiddies along with grandparents) but I am freaking out and not sure if other people feel this way and what did you do. Did you still go?? Does it go away once you land? I wonder what people do who have to travel for work.. Do they freak out too but's it's a once a week freak out?? Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way. We all vacation together. I figure if we die, we die together. not saying my way is healthy, just that I empathize.

[Anonymous]

If you are that uncomfortable don't go, it will ruin your vacation. I think you should tell your husband about this.

[Anonymous]

just like PPs I just take my DS with us - again may not be the healthy thing

[Anonymous]

I think it is rational to have this fear but irrational to act on it. Terrible things can happen anytime and being with your kids 24/7 is (a) impossible and (b) no guarantee of anything, including that you will "all die together." (Not to mention the fact that I'd much prefer my kids live, even without me thank you very much.)

I would just make sure you have a good emergency plan in place for what you will do if, for some reason, you are delayed or something happens. You should already have wills/guardianships/insurance etc. already worked out, and if not, maybe this is a good impetus to do so. Make sure you plan for any contingencies and then enjoy. Bring some photos of your kids with you and make sure you schedule regular phone calls home to check in.

You will miss your kids like crazy and will be so glad to come home, but your relationship with your husband is important and it sounds like you could use a little break yourself. Have fun and don't let your life be governed by fear. It sets a bad example for your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is rational to have this fear but irrational to act on it. Terrible things can happen anytime and being with your kids 24/7 is (a) impossible and (b) no guarantee of anything, including that you will "all die together." (Not to mention the fact that I'd much prefer my kids live, even without me thank you very much.)

I would just make sure you have a good emergency plan in place for what you will do if, for some reason, you are delayed or something happens. You should already have wills/guardianships/insurance etc. already worked out, and if not, maybe this is a good impetus to do so. Make sure you plan for any contingencies and then enjoy. Bring some photos of your kids with you and make sure you schedule regular phone calls home to check in.

You will miss your kids like crazy and will be so glad to come home, but your relationship with your husband is important and it sounds like you could use a little break yourself. Have fun and don't let your life be governed by fear. It sets a bad example for your kids.

I agree wholeheartedly. Well said.

[Anonymous]

I went through the same thing as you are when I first left DS at seven months. We had originally planned a trip to Belize, but decided to shorten it and stay closer to home - ended up in the Outer Banks for four nights. It wasn't the vacation we'd planned, but I was much calmer knowing I was only a few hours away and it was still a getaway since I wasn't dealing with the stressed of home/work. DS is now five and this past year I spent 10 days in Korea (for work) and 8 days in Belize (with DH, Yea!). Still missed DS horribly, but I was a much better Mommy when I returned for having had the break! Good luck!