Women with children that are divorced

[Anonymous]

Did you go back to your maiden name after your divorce why or why not? I'm going through a divorce now and I'm torn between keeping my married name so I'll have the same last name as my child or going back to my maiden name. I've even considered hyphenating it, but both last names are long.

[Anonymous]

I was an established professional when I got married so I never changed in the first place (I'm in academia and I wanted to keep my name the same on publications). So there was nothing to change back to. That said, there have never been any problems with my kid and I having separate last names, except that he sometimes gets addressed as Larlo MyLastName by people who don't know. He can see why they think that though and it's not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Of all the things you worry its the last name??? WTF.

[Anonymous]

My mom kept my dad's name until she remarried, then she took my stepfather's name. My stepfather's ex-wife hyphenated her maiden name and my stepfather's name after the divorce.

I think if I got divorced, I would go back to my maiden name and then keep it if I ever got remarried.

[Anonymous]

Divorced mom here. I changed back to my maiden name. I had used both names professionally (maiden before marriage, married after marriage) and I did not want his name attached to mine anymore. It has not been an issue with my kid having a different last name, even when flying. If I remarry, I will not change my name again.

[Anonymous]

I never changed it. Get married again this fall and not changing it then either.

[Anonymous]

I wished I had never changed mine when I got married. It is such a pain to get everything changed back.

[Anonymous]

I kept my last name 1. its a great last name and 2. with my daughter being adopted I figured it would just be easier for her.

[Anonymous]

I agonized over changing my name when I got married, but finally did. After I got divorced I kept my married name because I liked it better and wanted to still have the same last name as my son.

[Anonymous]

Has anyone hyphenated their name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was an established professional when I got married so I never changed in the first place (I'm in academia and I wanted to keep my name the same on publications). So there was nothing to change back to. That said, there have never been any problems with my kid and I having separate last names, except that he sometimes gets addressed as Larlo MyLastName by people who don't know. He can see why they think that though and it's not a big deal.

I know a women who changed back to her maiden name right before she earned her PhD. She said that was a must!

[Anonymous]

Kept it the same as my kids.

[Anonymous]

Never changed it in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Never changed mine, either. I do remember, after the divorce, being addressed as Mrs. Ex-Husband a few times by dental receptionists and the like, and while you let that stuff slide while actually married, it feels weird and wrong once you're divorced.

[Anonymous]

My kids are 11 and 13. They haven't even been married yet, let alone divorced.