No friends to invite to a baby shower

[Anonymous]

DH and I are expecting and he is pushing for a baby shower. I just don't know what to do. Of course id love to have a shower but we have no one to invite. Outside our family(4 women) & the one out of state female friend I have left there isn't anyone that would come. We are in our late 20s w no friends really. We had a falling out w our friend circle last year...

It feels really shitty to not have anyone care enough for a baby shower.

[Anonymous]

Co-workers? DH's friends? You could have a jack n jill party and invite guys too.

[Anonymous]

You wouldn't throw the shower for yourself anyway so don't worry yourself about it at all- you don't need the stress of this. But DH could get together with your family and figure some things out.

Good luck and hugs to you

[Anonymous]

First off it isn't proper to have family members throw showers.

Just accept the fact you don't have friends to invite and focus on what you have going on in your life. Count your blessings. Don't make someone throw you a party and invite people you aren't close with. That's lame and you'll feel awkward. You'll live without a baby shower.

[Anonymous]

My DH only really just has one friend outside of our family too.

I was just thinking of letting the grandparents know our nursery list and if they want to help great if not....just get diapers.

It just bums me out to see the people we were friends with and all their showers and such. I know its stupid. And we shouldn't care at the end of the day baby will have everything they need...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First off it isn't proper to have family members throw showers.

Just accept the fact you don't have friends to invite and focus on what you have going on in your life. Count your blessings. Don't make someone throw you a party and invite people you aren't close with. That's lame and you'll feel awkward. You'll live without a baby shower.

Why? I've never heard that before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First off it isn't proper to have family members throw showers.

Just accept the fact you don't have friends to invite and focus on what you have going on in your life. Count your blessings. Don't make someone throw you a party and invite people you aren't close with. That's lame and you'll feel awkward. You'll live without a baby shower.

Why? I've never heard that before.

The reason is that having your family members throw you a shower is essentially asking for gifts for your family. A shower is supposed to be thrown by a friend. Not your sister or your mom.

[Anonymous]

Could you do a nice tea or something with just your female relatives?

[Anonymous]

Our parents have asked what they can get to help with and help purchase so we don't feel all that awkward asking for extra crib sheets or diapers. We will get all the expensive items. I think my mom wants to pay for a mom and baby class at 3-6 months. That we would def take her up on.

[Anonymous]

Pp - ideally that would be nice but they all live other places. Split up over 4 states.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. My mom insisted on throwing me a high school graduation party. I didn't have any friends to invite, so none came. Don't have a baby shower, OP. Just enjoy your baby when it gets here. Make mom-friends then.

[Anonymous]

This was me 6 years ago. I was heartbroken and embarrassed. I found a new moms group on Meet up (heard GREAT things about PACE too ) and made lifelong friendships through it. I have better friends now than in college and they get what my new world is like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First off it isn't proper to have family members throw showers.

Just accept the fact you don't have friends to invite and focus on what you have going on in your life. Count your blessings. Don't make someone throw you a party and invite people you aren't close with. That's lame and you'll feel awkward. You'll live without a baby shower.

Incorrect this is old school. OP my family is throwing me a coed shower. Really looking forward to it since I had been dreading an all girls shower when I don't have many close girlfriends to invite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First off it isn't proper to have family members throw showers.

Just accept the fact you don't have friends to invite and focus on what you have going on in your life. Count your blessings. Don't make someone throw you a party and invite people you aren't close with. That's lame and you'll feel awkward. You'll live without a baby shower.

Eek your delivery was a bit harsh. A relative threw mine. But I agree insofar as skipping the shower.

When you have the baby, that's your chance to make new friends. Tons of baby moms try to find others for "play dates."

[Anonymous]

This was me a few months ago. I had just moved to a new area and had like 2 friends I didnt know that well and just accepted it wasn't going to happen. Nbd...I was in a similar position after getting engaged and didn't have a wedding shower either. Then around 24 weeks one of the friends brought it up and we did end up having one. I think it's OK to have family throw you a shower IF they mention it first, but I wouldn't go to them (or anybody) asking them to throw one for me.