Xmas dinner budget question
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Anonymous
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My family is coming here for Xmas, and I can't wait. My SIL is an amazing cook, likes to cook, and knows that with small kids, it would be hard for me to pull off a great dinner. She's volunteered to cook the dinner. I've double checked with my brother to make sure she isn't feeling like she has to do this or annoyed that she's doing it. 6 members of my husband's family are coming too, so the dinner is 11 adults and 3 kids. When I found out my husband's family was going to come, I told her about it and gave her an out, and she still said she wanted to do it.
The tricky part is that my SIL has absolutely no price limit when it comes to preparing food. She'll buy organic everything plus grass-fed, organic meat. She spends a fortune. I, of course, said that I would pay for the dinner as it is at my house (and my family is flying to me). However, I have a budget for food as they are in my house all week (and of course I'll buy the food), plus we have Xmas gifts for our family and my husband's family - anyway, it gets to be very pricey. When I gave her my budget, she volunteered to pay for the protein for the meal.I told her pork loin from Costco was more than fine (and no one in the families are picky), but she's told me that she's place an order for the meat at the local Whole Foods, so I know it will be astronomically expensive. Do I let her pay? I'm not sure how to handle this. |
Anonymous
| I don't see the issue with letting her pay since she offered and what she wants is out of your budget. |
Anonymous
| Yes, let her. Some people only like to eat ethically sourced meat and it's nice that she's willing to pay for her preference and not expect you to pony up for it. |
Anonymous
| Let her pay. She seems nice about it. |
Anonymous
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Totally let her pay.
She wants to do it her way, and she seems to enjoy it. I'd leave it to her. It sounds like you both are very considerate of one another. That's awesome. |
Anonymous
| Let her pay for the protein. People good at cooking like to work with foods they're familiar with. |
Anonymous
| You are feeding a big crowd all week...it us fine. Family should be planning some meals out too to give yoiu a break |
Anonymous
| You are feeding a big crowd all week...it us fine. Family should be planning some meals out too to give yoiu a break |
Anonymous
Let her pay. You all have had a discussion, and this was the solution (you host, she cooks, you pay for the majority of the meal, she pays for the protein). I think you are overthinking this a bit. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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Accept her help gracefully. No one will think anything of it. You've got enough to worry about as host for that many people.
Enjoy your holiday OP! |
Anonymous
| Your SIL sounds really nice, you did the right thing by telling her your budget and when her choice for meat exceeded that, she offered to pay. It sounds like she was gracious so I would let her pay, thank her and move on. |
Anonymous
| It sounds fine to let her pay and I respect your request for a budget but are you sure the meat is that much more at WF? I paid $25/lb for tenderloin at Costco yesterday which seemed pricey to me. |
Anonymous
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I think it's fine to let her pay.
Thank her copiously and make sure someone else does the dishes and clean-up! |
Anonymous
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Can I trade SILs with you?
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