Is it weird that I'm happy for this guy?

[Anonymous]

That he's happy and in love with a different woman, even though that woman isn't me, and I badly wanted it to be me.
I'm not upset or jealous. Just happy for him.
Weird?

[Anonymous]

That means you really cared about him, and not just wanted him. Two very different things. And the caring part seems pretty rare, IMO. Be happy that you are capable of genuinely caring about someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That means you really cared about him, and not just wanted him. Two very different things. And the caring part seems pretty rare, IMO. Be happy that you are capable of genuinely caring about someone.

Don't make me seem better than I am. I am really happy for him/ them, and I think she genuinely cares about him too, but I was a little sad over it too.

[Anonymous]

I feel really happy when I see a man and a women who are clearly in love. I grew up seeing the opposite and I was in a violent marriage so I was beginning to think people rarely have healthy relationships, so when I see it I get giddy inside even though it's not happening to me. Makes me feel like all is right with world even if it's just between these two love birds.

[Anonymous]

I'm happy like that for a guy I didn't marry due to religious differences. He married a sweet Muslim girl and they have the life he wanted. It's a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm happy like that for a guy I didn't marry due to religious differences. He married a sweet Muslim girl and they have the life he wanted. It's a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That he's happy and in love with a different woman, even though that woman isn't me, and I badly wanted it to be me.
I'm not upset or jealous. Just happy for him.
Weird?

Not weird. Just because it didn't work for the two of you doesn't mean he isn't a quality person worthy of li
love. If it is any consolation, I'm sure he thinks about you sometimes with positive thoughts.

[Anonymous]

A bit unusual I suppose, but not entirely weird.

You love this person & seem to have accepted that you do not have a chance w/him.

So you are realistic in the sense that in order to be truly happy, he needs to settle down w/someone who he loves more.

Make sure you are completely honest w/yourself here OP.

Lying to yourself is a problem in itself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A bit unusual I suppose, but not entirely weird.

You love this person & seem to have accepted that you do not have a chance w/him.

So you are realistic in the sense that in order to be truly happy, he needs to settle down w/someone who he loves more.

Make sure you are completely honest w/yourself here OP.

Lying to yourself is a problem in itself.

I am being honest. I'm happy for him. when I found out it hurt a bit, not out of jealously, but because I knew he and I would never have a chance, but knowing the other woman she's great and perfect for hi,. I'm happy, but it stings. It's a strange feeling.

[Anonymous]

BS

[Anonymous]

It probably gives you closure to move on, too. Now you don't have to wonder if he was the one for you.