Did you use a donor egg?

[Anonymous]

If you did, please tell me about the process for you. Which clinic did you use? What information was available about the donor? Did you have a successful pregnancy? What were the psychological issues, if any, that you worked through, and what was that like for you? We are beginning to consider a donor egg and I'd love to hear from women who've done it.

[Anonymous]

Preg Loss Mentioned, but yes I used donor eggs at SG. We had a perfect blast transfer Feb 08 and became pregnant with our daughter. We lost her at 31 weeks and even with that we would do a donor again. We loved her so much and still love her. As for psychological issues I had none, I knew I would love the baby even if it was not my embryos and boy was I right. Even though she was stillborn the love I have for her could move mountains. She is my baby girl. Since then we have had 2 FET and just miscarried at 5 weeks. We will keep trying with another FET and if need be we will get a new donor. My daughter has made me a better person. As for picking the donor SG has a pool of them and you see pixs of them as a child and their health history and info on what they look like now. Also family history and any children they have. Also about their education and jobs. It is pretty detailed. I wish you luck as you look into donor and I promise you, you will not regret it.

[Anonymous]

PP your post was absolutely moving. What a strong individual you are and what a beautiful thing to write. Thanks for sharing your experience with others.

[Anonymous]

I would say the TWO hardest things DH and I had to work through was: Emotions and Money.
After that, the rest was easy.

We already had two failed IVF cycles using my eggs. The second cycle was done when I was 43 years old. We were very sad when we realized that we needed to move on. There were many, many tears. Other options were (1) donor eggs or (2) adoption. Clearly, these were not our first choice. We even considered being childless. But, we wanted a family.

We chose a program that we could afford called shared risk/ shared eggs. The risk is shared with the doctor in that they refund the medical fees if there's no baby after 6 tries. However, the cost of the donor eggs are non-refundable. In addition, we shared the eggs with one other family. I got pregnant on the FIRST CYCLE.

Ask for the information packet and read it before the first appointment with the Doctor. It took about 6 months of tests, ultrasounds, etc. to ensure that I was a healthy candidate. DH and I also met with social counselor for mental screening. I know it seems daunting right now, but it gets easier.

We are so glad we did it. We have a beautiful twelve month old daughter. Good luck.