Is this wrong?

[Anonymous]

Is it wrong to not spend the holidays with dysfunctional family? Because they are so annoying and drama filled I often don't have a good time. The idea that my holidays will continuously not be filled with joy is kind of a bummer.

[Anonymous]

I think it is your decision how you spend our holidays.

[Anonymous]

Nope, not wrong.

[Anonymous]

Hotel, your own wheels, and you manage your time.
You are in control. Always have an escape plan.

Decide how much time = not having excessive guilt.
(there is no right or wrong answer here. It's about you being at peace with yourself as a decent human being)
Choose the amount of time: every year for 1 or 2 days, 2hr visit twice/day? every other year? whatever.
You dictate it, they don't. Let them know how much time/when you will be visiting so they can plan.
DO NOT GO INTO WHY.

[Anonymous]

Everyone has some level of dysfunction in their family. Don't anticipate it, make a plan to avoid it. If you see it happening, leave.

[Anonymous]

They would probably not miss you because you sound so unpleasant. Stay home and everyone can have a Merry Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it wrong to not spend the holidays with dysfunctional family? Because they are so annoying and drama filled I often don't have a good time. The idea that my holidays will continuously not be filled with joy is kind of a bummer.

It's not wrong. It's self care. You don't owe anyone your sadness or discomfort.

Ignore the trolls who would shame you for breaking the taboo of saying aloud that some family dynamics are damaging.