life is sweet and sour

[Anonymous]

How would you interpret this? We are colleagues, both married, work and live on different continents. Since it sparked 3 years ago, we met through work once or twice a year, have the best time for a week, having some sex, talk, kiss, hug, talk and separate without knowing if we will ever meet. Throughout the year, we are in contact but just as friends, except when we meet. Its like having a soul mate for a week and then it's over. It actually sucks. I don't know why I write this, just wanted to share and see if someone has a kind of similiar relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How would you interpret this? We are colleagues, both married, work and live on different continents. Since it sparked 3 years ago, we met through work once or twice a year, have the best time for a week, having some sex, talk, kiss, hug, talk and separate without knowing if we will ever meet. Throughout the year, we are in contact but just as friends, except when we meet. Its like having a soul mate for a week and then it's over. It actually sucks. I don't know why I write this, just wanted to share and see if someone has a kind of similiar relationship?

Not helpful, to say but I haven't ever had something like this but I can totally see how it can happen and how much it can suck. The lead up to and the ensuing marriage is in a vacuum of prior experiences. Subsequent relationships/partners can bring more to the table... BUT the marriage and spouses must be respected and your post sounds like cheating to me and you should stop, or manage this as an adult.

[Anonymous]

I have something like this with a married individual who lives in another country but comes through my town semi-frequently (I'm not married). We haven't had full-on sex yet but just about everything else. In my case it's more like having a soul mate for 1-3 days and then it's over, but I feel you. It sucks and I need to end it and I know that I do but it's hard because I'll miss the email friendship as much or more than the physical aspect. I sympathize.

[Anonymous]

When I was single I had a relationship like this - ultimately, I found it was hindering how related to other men that I met - I decided he couldn't give me what I wanted, and pursued other things - now married, happy most days (with normal marriage grumpiness), two kids, house - the things that I knew I wanted..with a partner invested in those things. PRetty good, if you ask me.

[Anonymous]

I dunno, but your situation and "Life's both sweet and sour" title reminded me of this favorite old Bjork/Sugarcubes song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gpBOibusx2M

[Anonymous]

You must have feelings for this person, correct??

And you are living in a type of limbo. That is NO way to live your life.

It sounds as if you want more from this person. And it doesn't sound as if this person wants any more than the status quo.

Save your precious heart, keep it fully in tact and examine your marriage first.

If you are miserable, then take the necessary steps to fix it, counseling perhaps??

Or if your marriage is toast, then call a divorce lawyer pronto.

Life is much too short to simply endure it. Life needs to be celebrated each and every single day.

Please OP....Don't waste these good days on something like this affair. It sounds like there is a huge trade-off involved.

And the trade-off ultimately will be your most vital organ here, your heart.