I guess my marriage is over
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Anonymous
| I know dh has cheated in the past. I tried to give him the chance to come clean in counseling. He keeps lying and denying but acting like he wants to save our marriage. I think I realize I'm done giving him chances. I really truly did love him but this is just killing me. I feel dead inside. |
Anonymous
| What makes you think he has cheated? |
Anonymous
| Lets just say I have found tons of red flags that most sane people would not dispute. |
Anonymous
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How do you know he cheated.
Do you have tangible proof? |
Anonymous
Like? |
Anonymous
| Why do you need him to come clean? Can't you just figure out what led to the supposed infidelity and both improve? He probably thinks admitting infidelity will end everything |
Anonymous
| Red flags don't necessarily mean he cheated. Do you have any evidence that he actually followed through? |
Anonymous
| I guess I didn't see him in the act, no. We have been trying for a baby for a while. I guess it never happened for a reason |
Anonymous
Yes. Is it at all possible you are wrong , OP? It would be pretty terrible to continually accuse someone of wrongdoing and they didn't do anything wrong. Many, many people come to the brink of cheating, but don't for whatever reason. Maybe that's what happened with your husband. |
Anonymous
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Stop trying.
Do the 180 of affairs. (Google it). Find a friend that can help you. Move on. |
Anonymous
So what evidence do you have? |
Anonymous
Being selfish, weak and self absorbed. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
That's not explicit evidence of cheating. However, you're right your marriage is over , but it's not your husband's fault. |
Anonymous
| basicslly my cousin saw him out one night when he was supposed to be working late. I confronted him and he made up some crazy story. |