My Mother told me I was an accident.

[Anonymous]

I'm 13. My Parents own a Golf Course & Restaurant. In 2014, they did Dinners every two weekends. During one of the first Dinners, I overheard my mother talking to one of her friends. Her friend asked her, "Is that your youngest son?" while pointing at me. I pretended to not notice. My mother replied with, "Yes, he is my youngest. He also wasn't planned."
After her friend left to go back to her table, I walked up to my mother and asked her if it was the truth.
She simply said, "You were an accident." and walked away.
My mother didn't care about me as much as she did with my siblings, or my Nieces and Nephews.
Does my mother hate me?

[Anonymous]

OP, your mother does not hate you. Many children are not planned. Not a big deal. That's how most children come along. You will find that out when you are older. Children arrive when they arrive, and they are loved. Just as much as their siblings. Put his conversation aside. Accidents can be happy.

[Anonymous]

What the hell possesses these kinds of trolls?! I honestly get the ones who are just mean for shit stirring, because generally they are trying to find an outlet for their anger, albeit a shitty one.

This, weird.

[Anonymous]

This was an adult conversation that you did not understand. An "accident" means that their birth control did not work. It doesn't mean that you weren't wanted.

[Anonymous]

I was an accident too. My unmarried mother considered an abortion. I'm glad she changed her mind, and obviously she is too

[Anonymous]

Not planned does not mean not loved. You need to talk to your mother. Please tell her that you are confused so that she can clarify for you. My brothers are 11 months apart. Clearly, the second brother was not planned but he was well loved. My mother died years ago but my elderly father recently told us that said brother was named after the doctor b/c they were so grateful to have 3 kids (we always thought brother was named after someone else). So, even though he wasn't planned, he was still wanted. That was likely the case with you too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the hell possesses these kinds of trolls?! I honestly get the ones who are just mean for shit stirring, because generally they are trying to find an outlet for their anger, albeit a shitty one.

This, weird.

+1. There is no 13 year old boy who find his way to this forum to write this.

This adult troll has deep issues.

[Anonymous]

Yep.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it is a troll, but I, too, found this out when I was about this age. It impacted me deeply into my adulthood, but also because I've always had a terrible relationship with my mother (to this day). I guess if you are already feeling insecure, this knowledge really impacts you deeply. I'm sure many people who were accidents have great relationships with their moms and don't have these issues.

If you are not a troll, then I suggest therapy. If I had known better, I might have done this, though I found a bit of therapy in my religion.

[Anonymous]

I had an unplanned child. I even took the morning after pill to try to prevent the pregnancy after a birth control failure. I got pregnant anyway.

I am SO glad I had this child! My daughter, now 8, brings great joy to my life. She's my angel. She really completes our family.

Your mom was probably trying to explain to her friend why she has a child who is so young. I'm guessing your mom is older? Maybe you have significantly older brothers and sisters?

Remember, parents are people too. They have all kinds of things happen to them in their lives. Including unplanned pregnancies!

[Anonymous]

Cheer up. She could have said, "he should have been an abortion." if OP is a 13 yr old boy, I am a 17 yr old.

[Anonymous]

Many of us are accidents. Why aren't you at school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your mother does not hate you. Many children are not planned. Not a big deal. That's how most children come along. You will find that out when you are older. Children arrive when they arrive, and they are loved. Just as much as their siblings. Put his conversation aside. Accidents can be happy.

This. My sister and I were accidents too and plenty of others were as well. It does not mean you are not loved and is nothing to be ashamed about.

[Anonymous]

Heck, my mother even categorized the types of accident we each were (ignorance, stupidity and technological failure). She has three children, all accidents and all well loved.

[Anonymous]

Yes, she hates you, and she resents the fact that you survived the abortion she tried to have.