Letting go

[Anonymous]

Not sure if this fits under "Family Relationships" or another topic. Ever since I had DS almost a year ago (yay to making it to his 1st birthday next month!) I became super sensitive. I've always been sensitive but never this bad. In anticipation of having children, we moved closer to my family when we used to live close to ILs. We thought having my family nearby would be immensely helpful with having children, which it has. My BIL/SIL live close to ILs, and naturally, ILs prefer our nephews. My MIL is a little extreme and over the top in expressing her favoritism - and this REALLY bothered me. I just didn't want to have my son growing up with his grandmother overtly favoring his cousins. DH would always point out that we only see his parents on occasion, so it wouldn't impact his daily life. Still- this really bothered me.

Recently, my I felt a little excluded from my cousins' activities - they would get together but not let me know, etc. when I felt like they should have known that we would have appreciated an invite. I expressed my sadness when I found out later.

Today - I decided to make a change. I shouldn't feel so victimized and take things personally. I've decided for myself to focus on our family and do what makes us happy instead of relying on others to include us. It's already made me feel lighter, and I look forward to this approach in life! Just a slight adjustment can make a huge difference.

[Anonymous]

Um, okay. Well ... Im glad you um ... found a way to be more at peace with things? Not really sure what to say here.

But I am at the opposite end of the spectrum. So apologies if I am not giving you the response you want here. But keep in mind that although you think your kid is the shit, not everyone else does. Different people bond/click with different kids. Don't worry - your kid will be someone else's favorite.

[Anonymous]

I think your attitude is healthy OP. Why stew about something? Definitely not worth it.

[Anonymous]

That's wonderful OP, I'm glad you have found some peace.

People, like the person who posted right after you, can choose to look at all of the bad aspects of life or choose to look at the positive ones. One choose makes you feel good, the other makes you feel bad. I'm so glad you have let go.

[Anonymous]

This additional sensitivity could be a sign of mild depression, OP. Take a look into that if it sounds possible.