Loving or controlling?
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Anonymous
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I'm taking a staycation this week. I'm long overdue for a break from work (over a year since last vacation- job requires constant attention to incoming emails after hours, weekends, etc.)
I really, truly am burnt out. That being said, it's a very weird work dynamic, but a team I enjoy working with, and a job I live in an industry I love. Yesterday was my first day of vacation and I ended up working most of it (I work remotely usually anyway). I woke up late this morning after DH had gone to work and found that he had hidden (or taken) my Blackberry, unplugged the landline and has maybe done something to the wifi connection (still not sure if that's coincidence). I'm wavering between feeling furious and absolutely relieved. I know his stance, which is that I work too much and the job requirements are killing me (partly true and partly hyperbolic). He would rather see me not work at all than have to do what I'm doing. I love and hate my job, meaning I love what I do, but the requirements aren't going to change. I feel fortunate to have a career I'm good at and enjoy. I agree the money I make does not counter the time required, but I'm fortunate that as his job may have us relocate soon, it's a job I can do remotely anywhere. As stated above, I'm finding the constant need to be on call exhausting. its the kind of situation that if I decide to be away from my phone for more than an hour or two, ,Murphys law kicks in and all hell breaks loose and I end up having to jump in to do damage control. I'm responding to emails on hikes, during dinner, etc. So, should I be glad or mad he took my phone? More curious than anything |
Anonymous
| You should get a new job. This really isn't about your husband although I suspect he is fed up with you killing yourself for work |
Anonymous
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Loving!!!! it's your VACATION! It's not like he is trying to get your fired and sabotaging technology during working hours. That would be cray.
Do yourself a favor and get off DCUM, too. Go outside. Go get a pedicure. Do something you think is totally indulgent. Enjoy! |
Anonymous
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I'm assuming that the two of you have had many, many battles over your workaholism and this is the drastic step he took to get you to relax.
I wouldn't label it either way, I would say that your husband is demonstrating to you that he is very impatient with the amount of working that you are doing and since you are admitting that it is completely over the top, he is not being irrational. I would listen carefully to what he is saying because it sounds like you are allowing your job to come between the two of you. I hope that this works out. |
Anonymous
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Loving. He knows your health and mental well being is more important than any job.
PS- he needs a big (naked) Thank You when he gets home!! |
Anonymous
| Loving and supportive |
Anonymous
| How are you posting? |
Anonymous
| Loving. You're on vacation. You should have your Out of Office replies set and stop looking at your email. |
Anonymous
Lol, thanks PP. I always read DCUM as my guilty little pleasure each morning with my coffee. Heck if I was going to miss that! Off to enjoy the day as apparently, there is no tech here to use. Perhaps a haircut and really bad romance novel 
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Anonymous
Agreed! |
Anonymous
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You worked most if yesterday? Then you're not on vacation.
Loving. |
Anonymous
Thanks PP. we don't actually battle over this, but I do agree that he see the stress and pressure I'm under. A few hours later and the world isn't crashing down, I see he's right. Thanks for your words of wisdom. |
Anonymous
On my personal phone. As posted before I read DCUM as my fun every morning. Lack of wifi isn't keeping me from that !! |
Anonymous
This was my foremost thought after reading the post. |
Anonymous
Does no one own a smartphone with a data plan around here? |