Is your child very sensitive to the mood of her teacher

[Anonymous]

My daughter's mainstream teacher is going through a divorce and she is understandably very stressed. She has broken into tears and tried to hide it according to DD. DD says she gets upset with the kids easily, but I am not in there so who knows. We told her this is a hard time for her teacher and she needs to be kind and not take anything personally. The thing is DD falls apart when there is stress around her (even more than typical kids do). We knew something was going on with her OT before the OT shared her dog died because DD was a mess after sessions and usually she loved OT. We manage our environment as best we can to keep stress low, but I can't wave a magic wand and make the teacher's life less stressful. We just have to ride this out, but it sucks. I am not going to say anything to the teacher, special ed teacher or anyone higher up because this woman has enough going on and I want to be compassionate. So I'm venting. It sucks.

I know this sounds rude and insensitive, but I really hope she is getting therapy and the insensitive part is I hope she tries meds if she is struggling as much as DD claims. I had to go on meds when I lost a close friend because I knew allowing myself to sink would make DD a complete mess. It's OK and normal to be sad, but if it is affecting her work, it's a problem that needs intervention.

[Anonymous]

My kid is very sensitive to the mood of his teacher(s) and he is autistic!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: My daughter's mainstream teacher is going through a divorce and she is understandably very stressed. She has broken into tears and tried to hide it according to DD. DD says she gets upset with the kids easily, but I am not in there so who knows. We told her this is a hard time for her teacher and she needs to be kind and not take anything personally. The thing is DD falls apart when there is stress around her (even more than typical kids do). We knew something was going on with her OT before the OT shared her dog died because DD was a mess after sessions and usually she loved OT. We manage our environment as best we can to keep stress low, but I can't wave a magic wand and make the teacher's life less stressful. We just have to ride this out, but it sucks. I am not going to say anything to the teacher, special ed teacher or anyone higher up because this woman has enough going on and I want to be compassionate. So I'm venting. It sucks.

I know this sounds rude and insensitive, but I really hope she is getting therapy and the insensitive part is I hope she tries meds if she is struggling as much as DD claims. I had to go on meds when I lost a close friend because I knew allowing myself to sink would make DD a complete mess. It's OK and normal to be sad, but if it is affecting her work, it's a problem that needs intervention.

Sounds like your daughter is an empath. You must approach the teacher in a non-accusatory way and let her know that you know it isn't your place to get involved with her person life but Larla can sense something is amiss and you just wanted to bring it to her attention. You can leave it at that or if the teacher is open to discuss go from there. It is a delicate situation and the teacher has an obligation to leave her personal problems outside of the classroom for those 6-8 hours a day. We are all human but we have to set a good example for children and also be sensitive to their emotional needs. If you don't feel comfortable talking then send a note.

[Anonymous]

When I'm stressed I can't just turn it off because someone tells me to. I would not approach the teacher. This is your dd's issue not the teachers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I'm stressed I can't just turn it off because someone tells me to. I would not approach the teacher. This is your dd's issue not the teachers

Guaranteed it is part of her year end evaluation. It needs to be brought to her attention. http://www.emotionalintelligence.net/?gclid=COrR5qPLk8gCFcEXHwodcv8GGw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I'm stressed I can't just turn it off because someone tells me to. I would not approach the teacher. This is your dd's issue not the teachers

This is my thought as well. I'm very empathetic as well, so I get where the dd is coming from, but i would look for help for dd in managing that.

[Anonymous]

OP here. DD has Aspergers so I'm not sure it's empathy, but it really throws her off.

[Anonymous]

I think any kid would pick up the stress of the teacher. I'd encourage your DD to send a card to the teacher--something like "Thinking of you at this time" or "glad you are my teacher." We all need a little support from time to time. I'm sure the teacher would appreciate it.