Just leaving in middle of date

[Anonymous]

I went on my second tinder date on Thursday. When she got to the bar I could tell right away there was something off about her. To make matters worse she wouldn't even look at me from the first moment. I wasn't feeling her either so I didn't really care. My question would it be wrong if I told her two to five minutes into the conversation that I don't this is going to work and just leave? Why do we always have to force an hour sit down if its not worth it?

[Anonymous]

She wouldn't look at you, like at all? If someone was avoiding any eye contact at all with me, then yes I would end the date, because that's bizarre. If you just aren't sure things will click, you act like a civilized adult and stay for the entire hour or however long, and just don't go on another date with that person.

[Anonymous]

Worse than not look all that was coming out was verbal vomit. I understand that you are literally going on a date with a stranger, but still have some class.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely, you can end the date at any time. Do the right thing and tell her that you don't think she is going to be a match for you BEFORE you leave.

In most cases, if the person is not someone who you click with -- but is still a good person and making the effort, hang in there for at least 30-40 minutes if you are out for drinks. At least 20 minutes for a coffee date.

If someone is wacko, inappropriate, or scary -- you can exit much earlier.

[Anonymous]

Dude, did you take the subway?
Because the words of the prophet are written on the subway walls:

Just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
No need to be coy, Roy
Just set yourself free.

[Anonymous]

What do you expect from Tinder. I doubt most people are even looking for a 10 minute date on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you expect from Tinder. I doubt most people are even looking for a 10 minute date on it.

It's clear you aren't familiar with Tinder which is fine, but don't act like you know what you are talking about.
Op, I'd stay for one drink and then leave.

[Anonymous]

My first Tinder date was amazing. We totally hit it off, however she was only in town for a week from the west coast. So I guess my perception of the app is a little warped. The second one was just bad. I had one drink and forced a conversation forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you expect from Tinder? I doubt most people are even looking for a 10 minute date on it.

Any app or website could have lousy results, don't generalize.

[Anonymous]

I once had a terrible date. I left in the middle of it. Why bother sticking it out if it is not working? Leave if you're not feeling it. Just do it politely without being rude.

[Anonymous]

I think you're rude. Say something about "I have another activity to get to" but stay for a half hour or so, pay for her drink. Be a gentleman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you expect from Tinder. I doubt most people are even looking for a 10 minute date on it.

It's clear you aren't familiar with Tinder which is fine, but don't act like you know what you are talking about.
Op, I'd stay for one drink and then leave.

I'm familiar with Tinder and every straight person understands it's a Look Book for picking people out based on their appearance, and then hopefully fucking them.

eHarmony, or anything that requires thought, it is not.

[Anonymous]

Why not have a friend send you an "emergency text".

Set it up in advance so that that if text a code word "Red"

They know to text/call to say that you are needed somewhere else ASAP.

The not making eye contact may just indicate shyness. The "verbal vomit" is not good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you expect from Tinder. I doubt most people are even looking for a 10 minute date on it.

It's clear you aren't familiar with Tinder which is fine, but don't act like you know what you are talking about.
Op, I'd stay for one drink and then leave.

I'm familiar with Tinder and every straight person understands it's a Look Book for picking people out based on their appearance, and then hopefully fucking them.

eHarmony, or anything that requires thought, it is not.

Nope. You clearly have never actually used Tinder.

Plenty of people are on Tinder to find relationships and state that in their profiles. Others are on for just finding new friends, and also state that. And then there are of course those who are on for a hookup.

But it's not one type.

[Anonymous]

That's fine. Just say, we don't seem to be gelling but I wish you the best and leave some cash for the drinks. Then go. Not wrong.