Would you allow your 17 year old to watch Game of Thrones?

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Anonymous wrote:Well, your 17 year old is likely going to college in August. Can they watch it then? As PPs have mentioned, when kids are getting ready to be "launched" and are applying for and choosing college, it seems so much better to spend your last few FT parenting months spending time with them and discussing things than banning a TV show that they will either stream behind your back now, or as soon as you drop them off at college.

So should they be allowed to smoke pot at home as well? After all they'll be out of the house in a year and I won't be able to stop it then.

Well, pot is illegal, for one. There is no law against watching Game of Thrones.

Logic fail.

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Anonymous wrote:My 17 year old niece mentioned to me that her favorite show is Game of Thrones and when I asked how her parents felt about her watching, she responded that they don't care. My kids are a lot younger, so I'm not sure how I will feel when they are that age, but my instinctive reaction was surprise that her parents would let her watch a show that is basically light porn.

Would I allow my 17-year-old, who will be a legal adult in less than a year, and who will probably out of the house in the next year (if not earlier), and who has plenty of opportunities to watch this show anyway even if I don't allow her to, to watch this TV show?

Yes, I would.

Most kids have plenty of opportunities to watch porn, even if not allowed. That doesn't mean that the parent has to officially "allow" it.

Of course a parent can ban anything. The question is, what does the banning get you?

+1 - seriously, she is moving out in less than 9 months!

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Anonymous wrote:Both my two oldest kids were away at college by that age, so they could watch whatever they wanted. I might talk about disrespect towards women and inaccurate portrayals of sex, but that's it.

This is the crux of the whole matter, and I would begin that conversation (not the show) in the early teens. It bears repeating!

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Anonymous wrote:Well, your 17 year old is likely going to college in August. Can they watch it then? As PPs have mentioned, when kids are getting ready to be "launched" and are applying for and choosing college, it seems so much better to spend your last few FT parenting months spending time with them and discussing things than banning a TV show that they will either stream behind your back now, or as soon as you drop them off at college.

So should they be allowed to smoke pot at home as well? After all they'll be out of the house in a year and I won't be able to stop it then.

Well, pot is illegal, for one. There is no law against watching Game of Thrones.

Logic fail.

Ok. Then how about letting your 17 year old have their boyfriend spend the night? It's not illegal and they will be out of the house soon enough anyways where you won't be able to prevent it.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, your 17 year old is likely going to college in August. Can they watch it then? As PPs have mentioned, when kids are getting ready to be "launched" and are applying for and choosing college, it seems so much better to spend your last few FT parenting months spending time with them and discussing things than banning a TV show that they will either stream behind your back now, or as soon as you drop them off at college.

So should they be allowed to smoke pot at home as well? After all they'll be out of the house in a year and I won't be able to stop it then.

Well, pot is illegal, for one. There is no law against watching Game of Thrones.

Logic fail.

Ok. Then how about letting your 17 year old have their boyfriend spend the night? It's not illegal and they will be out of the house soon enough anyways where you won't be able to prevent it.

If you want to tell your 17-year-old that she's not allowed to watch a certain TV show, you can go right ahead and tell your 17-year-old that. Just remember that you telling her she is not allowed to do something, and her actually not doing that thing, are two different things.

Alternatively, you could tell her WHY you think it's inappropriate for her. I, personally, think that would send a clearer message about your beliefs than "You may not watch this TV show." But you're you and should do what you find appropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, your 17 year old is likely going to college in August. Can they watch it then? As PPs have mentioned, when kids are getting ready to be "launched" and are applying for and choosing college, it seems so much better to spend your last few FT parenting months spending time with them and discussing things than banning a TV show that they will either stream behind your back now, or as soon as you drop them off at college.

So should they be allowed to smoke pot at home as well? After all they'll be out of the house in a year and I won't be able to stop it then.

Well, pot is illegal, for one. There is no law against watching Game of Thrones.

Logic fail.

Ok. Then how about letting your 17 year old have their boyfriend spend the night? It's not illegal and they will be out of the house soon enough anyways where you won't be able to prevent it.

Again, there is a major difference. Assuming that you mean that DD & her boyfriend will be staying in the same room, there are actual, life-altering risks (pregnancy, STDs) involved with the boyfriend spending night.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, your 17 year old is likely going to college in August. Can they watch it then? As PPs have mentioned, when kids are getting ready to be "launched" and are applying for and choosing college, it seems so much better to spend your last few FT parenting months spending time with them and discussing things than banning a TV show that they will either stream behind your back now, or as soon as you drop them off at college.

So should they be allowed to smoke pot at home as well? After all they'll be out of the house in a year and I won't be able to stop it then.

Well, pot is illegal, for one. There is no law against watching Game of Thrones.

Logic fail.

Ok. Then how about letting your 17 year old have their boyfriend spend the night? It's not illegal and they will be out of the house soon enough anyways where you won't be able to prevent it.

Again, there is a major difference. Assuming that you mean that DD & her boyfriend will be staying in the same room, there are actual, life-altering risks (pregnancy, STDs) involved with the boyfriend spending night.

Well, really, there isn't a major difference. If you tell your kid that she may not watch Game of Thrones, what will she do? Will she not watch Game of Thrones? Will she just go somewhere else to watch it? Is it ok with you if she just goes somewhere else to watch it? Will she know why you don't want her to watch it? If something upsets her when she watches it somewhere else, will she talk to you about it?

Similarly, if you tell your kid that she may not sleep over with her boyfriend, what will she do? Will she not have sex with her boyfriend? Will she just go somewhere else to have sex? Is it ok with you if she just goes somewhere else to have sex? Will she know why you don't want her to have sex? If something upsets her when she has sex somewhere else, will she talk to you about it?

For almost any issue, with a 17-year-old, it's not as simple as issuing a you-may-not! edict and then they don't do it and the issue goes away.

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I just looked it up. Game of Thrones is on HBO. We don't get HBO. Problem solved.

Yes, my older teen could drive himself over to a friends house if he really, really had his heart set on watching that show. But he would rather watch sports and play video games.

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Anonymous wrote:My 17 year old niece mentioned to me that her favorite show is Game of Thrones and when I asked how her parents felt about her watching, she responded that they don't care. My kids are a lot younger, so I'm not sure how I will feel when they are that age, but my instinctive reaction was surprise that her parents would let her watch a show that is basically light porn.

Would I allow my 17-year-old, who will be a legal adult in less than a year, and who will probably out of the house in the next year (if not earlier), and who has plenty of opportunities to watch this show anyway even if I don't allow her to, to watch this TV show?

Yes, I would.

Exactly.

At 17 yo I don't think I could really forbid watching anything - it would more be a suggestion or maybe to in our house/presence thing. And Game of Thrones would not concern me. I'm much more concerned about certain video games (GTA!!!) and what they can find on the internet that anything on TV.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would. I might start conversations about specific episodes, but I think there's much more to the show than "light porn" and 17 is pretty old.

--parent of a 19-year-old and a 21-year-old

I agree that there's much more to the show than light porn, but on a recent episode there was a prolonged and very explicit scene of two women engaged in oral sex. There was absolutely no legitimate reason that scene needed to be there. Call me a prude or old-fashioned, but that just does NOT seem to me to be acceptable viewing for a child under 18.

17 year olds are more young adults than children. Cunnilingus will soon be the least of their worries.

They may even <gasp> enjoy it.

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Anonymous wrote:To moms, would you watch it with your DS? I would allow it, but I would not be able to sit and watch it with him. I imagine he would feel the same way about watching it with his mom.

At an appropriate age, sure. I little squirming is good for them - also which things like this with your parents makes you consider them a little more then with you friends. Discomfort is not a bad thing sometimes.

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Anonymous wrote:Ages 16, 17 or 18 and living under my roof, sure I'd allow it and not sure it would be realistic to try to enforce a contrary rule.

Ages 14, 15 - borderline on whether I'd allow it.

Below high school. No.

I remember my parents letting my 13 yo sister choose Clockwork Orange for family movie night (I was 15) - talk about uncomfortable, my mother bolted approx. 30 seconds into it, by father was a trooper and watched the whole movie with use and even discussed it.

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My 11 year old watches GOT.

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Yes of course. She will be going off to college in less than a year….

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, your 17 year old is likely going to college in August. Can they watch it then? As PPs have mentioned, when kids are getting ready to be "launched" and are applying for and choosing college, it seems so much better to spend your last few FT parenting months spending time with them and discussing things than banning a TV show that they will either stream behind your back now, or as soon as you drop them off at college.

So should they be allowed to smoke pot at home as well? After all they'll be out of the house in a year and I won't be able to stop it then.

Well, pot is illegal, for one. There is no law against watching Game of Thrones.

Logic fail.

Ok. Then how about letting your 17 year old have their boyfriend spend the night? It's not illegal and they will be out of the house soon enough anyways where you won't be able to prevent it.

Not pp but I would if he was a "long" time boyfriend. My niece began dating this boy in HS who was 17 at the time. They had sex about a year later for the first time and are still dating - she is almost 17 now and he is 19. He has slept in her house and has come to my house as well with the whole family. Just this weekend they were over and I put them together in the same room without anyone else. Her mother was here as well, and so her grandmother and grandfather.