Have you ever hooked up with someone much younger or older?
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Anonymous
I'm with you. This sort of happened to me too but I was 15 and he was 24. I'm 42 now and I really have no idea what was going on in my head, but my mom had just gone to the mental hospital, I had no friends, my dad lived far away, and had been severally neglected most of my life. Later on I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder, and risky sexual activity is a big symptom of that. And, of course, I was 15. If anybody were to look at this situation and put any blame on me, I'd wonder if *they* were off their meds. He was engaged and she found out about us and dumped him, so while what I did was very wrong, the silver lining is that I helped her dodge a bullet. Even if nothing had happened, who wants to marry someone who would cheat on them with a 15-year old if they had the chance? |
Anonymous
| I was 25 and she was 44. |
Anonymous
| 15 years older, but we were both adults, and it started at a time in my life when I was dealing with demons, and he seemed like he could offer an easy path to stability, though it wasn't the case. I'd rather be single or only date only younger guys now who are optimistic and fun and have more stamina now. |
Anonymous
Tinder was a different world from 2014 until Covid. Lived near campus and set my radius to 5 miles. Looking Glass and an Indian Restaurant were my spots. |
Anonymous
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When I was 22 year old and had recently graduated from college, I took a temp job through a staffing agency. There were about a dozen different temp employees who ranged in age from 22 to over 60. One was an attractive woman 15:years older than me who had worked as an investment banker and looked like a TV anchorwoman. She lost her job at the bank when her boss, who was also her fiancee, suddenly died and his entire line of business shut down.
The temps often are lunch together and also went out for drinks after work. The banker and I often sat together and talked a lot. People thought it was cute. One day I walked her home and she asked me to come inside. She was very blunt. She said something like "I've been very lonely since my fiancee died and I like being with you. Would you like to sleep with me?" We ended up being a couple for six months. We never had our relationship but we didn't actually tell our coworkers about it until the farewell dinner when the project ended. All of them were shocked, except one. She was a kind, religious woman who had invited me to go to Sunday church services with her, and she had asked me after church whether I was in a relationship with the banker. She said she "just knew.* The banker was a lot more experienced than I was sexually, but she had almost no experience receiving oral sex, which she thought was gross. She said she couldn't imagine a man enjoying it. We ended up teaching each other a lot. We slept together almost every day but we also had a very real emotional connection. Spending time with our friends was incredibly awkward because of the age gap and our different life experiences, and we broke up when I moved away. |
Anonymous
I'm 47 and divorced. No way I will sleep with a woman younger than 35. Lol. He still asks. Of course he will keep asking. He is a young man in prime sexual age. And he got coochie from an experienced woman who knows what she is doing. It's not like he wants to marry you. He just wants to f**k. And that's okay. |
Anonymous
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I think people will be surprised but older women are far more likely to sleep with younger men. Part of the reason in my opinion is that women want to prove to themselves that they are still desirable to men as they age and the younger the man they can f**k the bigger the boost to their ego.
Men just want to slide their d***k in a vagina. It's not a ego boosting trip. It's just sex that's it. |
Anonymous
Disagree with your assumptions about older women. It's rarely about ego. It's about hotness and stamina (being able to go 3 times versus needing viagra) and feeling truly desired by someone. There is an intensity that men over ~ 55 lose. |
Anonymous
| I was mid 20's she was mid 40's divorced with 3 kids. I thought it was fun she wanted a relationship |
Anonymous
I'm sorry this happened to you, too. No older man should ever approach a teen or a child. Period. |
Anonymous
they pray on vulnerable teens because those of us who have 15, 16 or 17-year-old daughters and find out an older man is sexually abusing her (because 15 year olds can't legally consent to sex with an adult) will throw everything we’ve got at putting him in jail for as long as possible. |
Anonymous
Exactly!!! And that's what so many of these posts (or perhaps one really loud one) just don't get. They don't go after girls who have had a stable upbringing and a supportive family. They know better. To say that these girls are equally responsible is plan ignorant. |
Anonymous
Not every man suffers from ED. DH is 55 and never has any problems with that. Often it's just low T and they need to get checked. |
Anonymous
| I was 16 when I lost my viriginity to a guy who was a junior in colllege. He was so gorgeous. Perfect first time. And I married a man who is 12 years older than I am. |
Anonymous
Eh, like you said, men slide it into anything, so it's not a huge ego boost to sleep with a horny 25 year old. I go for men 5-10 years younger because I find them more attractive than men my age (40s). Most men in their 40s-50s just look really old and never took care of their skin and body. I still want someone with a great body and non-leathery skin. |