Where in America can you live with mostly normal people and have a decent choice of jobs?

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Anonymous wrote:Looking for a mid tier city where people are mostly apolitical and for fun like to do sports or have family picnics and not go to the gun range or to protests. Where most people are happy with the sex they were born with respect the other sex. Where the religious and political extremism is toned down closer to zero and people are just trying to be productive and enjoy life. Does this exist in the US? How about outside of it?

Where do I go to find more than 50% of people that are trans? That sounds like fun.

My kid went through HS in Montgomery county and the number of her friends who were trans or some flavor of that was absolutely mind-blowing. Obviously not 50% but easily approaching 20%. I’ve often wondered where this obvious social-contagion came from. Was it the schools? Parents? No idea, but it’s insane.

I don’t think this is a big deal.

1) Being a girl in middle school sucks. No wonder they want to find a new path.

2) everyone experiments with identity stuff at that age, to varying degrees. For some portion of them, this is just some version of that.

3) I don’t see why it hurts anyone especially because I doubt more than a tiny portion of those girls are doing any kind of hormone or body modification

#1 is the specific reason why it alarms me, because I think for many girls it is a reaction to puberty and realizing that becoming a woman means becoming someone subject to misogyny, which sucks. While it is understandable, it's also alarming -- I don't want girls to feel like the best path is to simply deny their womanhood altogether. I get the decision on an individual level, I worry about it on a social level when so many girls feel like the only way to deal with becoming women is to simply deny that it is happening at all.

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Anonymous wrote:More exurban areas (not close-in suburbs, but further out exurbs) are like this. Western Price William County, Western Loudoun and Clarke County, Frederick, that kind of place.

This is good advice, if you don't want to move too far. The key is it needs to an exurb, not suburb, so it's out of teh DC bubble. I lived in one of these and no one ever talked politics. Based on voting records, the county was a bit red but the largest city (where we lived) in that county was purple.

Otherwise, I'd say a major city in the midwest, like one in Ohio or Indiana. While the state may be red (in the case of Indiana, Ohio is a little more balanced), the cities balance it out, and anyone outside the DC/NYC/SF bubble doesn't generally talk politics much anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Looking for a mid tier city where people are mostly apolitical and for fun like to do sports or have family picnics and not go to the gun range or to protests. Where most people are happy with the sex they were born with respect the other sex. Where the religious and political extremism is toned down closer to zero and people are just trying to be productive and enjoy life. Does this exist in the US? How about outside of it?

Where do I go to find more than 50% of people that are trans? That sounds like fun.

My kid went through HS in Montgomery county and the number of her friends who were trans or some flavor of that was absolutely mind-blowing. Obviously not 50% but easily approaching 20%. I’ve often wondered where this obvious social-contagion came from. Was it the schools? Parents? No idea, but it’s insane.

I don’t think this is a big deal.

1) Being a girl in middle school sucks. No wonder they want to find a new path.

2) everyone experiments with identity stuff at that age, to varying degrees. For some portion of them, this is just some version of that.

3) I don’t see why it hurts anyone especially because I doubt more than a tiny portion of those girls are doing any kind of hormone or body modification

#1 is the specific reason why it alarms me, because I think for many girls it is a reaction to puberty and realizing that becoming a woman means becoming someone subject to misogyny, which sucks. While it is understandable, it's also alarming -- I don't want girls to feel like the best path is to simply deny their womanhood altogether. I get the decision on an individual level, I worry about it on a social level when so many girls feel like the only way to deal with becoming women is to simply deny that it is happening at all.

I understand this and actually agree with it. But I don't think the solution is to demonize transpeople who are already marginalized and targeted. It's to address the misogyny.

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Anonymous wrote:Looking for a mid tier city where people are mostly apolitical and for fun like to do sports or have family picnics and not go to the gun range or to protests. Where most people are happy with the sex they were born with respect the other sex. Where the religious and political extremism is toned down closer to zero and people are just trying to be productive and enjoy life. Does this exist in the US? How about outside of it?

Where do I go to find more than 50% of people that are trans? That sounds like fun.

My kid went through HS in Montgomery county and the number of her friends who were trans or some flavor of that was absolutely mind-blowing. Obviously not 50% but easily approaching 20%. I’ve often wondered where this obvious social-contagion came from. Was it the schools? Parents? No idea, but it’s insane.

I don’t think this is a big deal.

1) Being a girl in middle school sucks. No wonder they want to find a new path.

2) everyone experiments with identity stuff at that age, to varying degrees. For some portion of them, this is just some version of that.

3) I don’t see why it hurts anyone especially because I doubt more than a tiny portion of those girls are doing any kind of hormone or body modification

You’re assuming that is was all female to male; definitely was not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More exurban areas (not close-in suburbs, but further out exurbs) are like this. Western Price William County, Western Loudoun and Clarke County, Frederick, that kind of place.

This is good advice, if you don't want to move too far. The key is it needs to an exurb, not suburb, so it's out of teh DC bubble. I lived in one of these and no one ever talked politics. Based on voting records, the county was a bit red but the largest city (where we lived) in that county was purple.

Otherwise, I'd say a major city in the midwest, like one in Ohio or Indiana. While the state may be red (in the case of Indiana, Ohio is a little more balanced), the cities balance it out, and anyone outside the DC/NYC/SF bubble doesn't generally talk politics much anyway.

Thank you. Sometimes when I see middle America on TV it all seems as political as DC but even more over the top because they dont have friends and family in the federal government. Would love to move to an area that doesn't discuss federal politics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More exurban areas (not close-in suburbs, but further out exurbs) are like this. Western Price William County, Western Loudoun and Clarke County, Frederick, that kind of place.

This is good advice, if you don't want to move too far. The key is it needs to an exurb, not suburb, so it's out of teh DC bubble. I lived in one of these and no one ever talked politics. Based on voting records, the county was a bit red but the largest city (where we lived) in that county was purple.

Otherwise, I'd say a major city in the midwest, like one in Ohio or Indiana. While the state may be red (in the case of Indiana, Ohio is a little more balanced), the cities balance it out, and anyone outside the DC/NYC/SF bubble doesn't generally talk politics much anyway.

Thank you. Sometimes when I see middle America on TV it all seems as political as DC but even more over the top because they dont have friends and family in the federal government. Would love to move to an area that doesn't discuss federal politics.

I'm from the midwest. This place doesn't exist.

You people know nothing about the midwest, especially if you are suggesting Indiana and Ohio as apolitical places. If you are really conservative, I guess you might not feel like it's weird. But the America where you can put your head in the sand and ignore reality simply doesn't exist.

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Shorthills NJ

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The South

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Anonymous wrote:The South

That depends on where in the south. Highly educated parts of the south, sure. The rest, nope. And it's not just about politics. Most of the good paying jobs are in and around cities, which happen to have more highly educated people, who tend to vote blue.

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The Hartford suburbs, except for West Hartford.