Normalizing period stains?

[Anonymous]

This is disgusting. It’s one thing to not care if underwear have stains that didn’t come out in wash. Who cares, carry on. But visible period stains on the rear of pants or shorts? No way. Just like I wouldn’t wear a shirt with a big coffee stain down the front.

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t matter what the stain is. Coffee. Blood. Poop. Food. I wouldn’t want or respect my kid or anyone to walk around with stained clothing. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, it is odd to be mortified about blood. You wouldn't be mortified if you skinned your elbow and it was bleeding.

What about all the people who faint at the sight of blood?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally normal. Adjacent to the free bleed movement. It's totally mainstream Brooks Nader period stained skirt at Wimbeldon was all over the place

Many girls and women choose free bleeding as a way to reclaim their bodies and challenge the stigma surrounding menstruation. It serves as a protest against the high costs of menstrual products and the "tampon tax," which adds extra financial burden on those people who menstruate.

Environmentally, free bleeding is seen as a more sustainable option, reducing waste in the environment from disposable menstrual products.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my kids started middle school, I explained period stains.

I explained that even dogs have periods and this is what mammal’s deal with.

We don’t always know when it’s gonna happen. Also, girls are not afforded the opportunity to go to the bathroom any second of the day that they want so there’s a huge chance in their school with some girl on every single day of the week might be dealing with a period. Hence they might deal with. Stains..

Fast-forward a year or two later, I ended up with fibroids in my uterus, and I was at a sports event in white pants, and when I stood up, I had blood going from my crotch to my knees.

Of course I’m not just gonna sit there with everybody looking at my blood, but did I get up and leave no I threw a blanket over me. I waited until the game was over and then walking to the car. I explained to my son. We need to go home and change mom‘s pants.

It was a tournament so it wasn’t like normal to go home between games.

Luckily, the stains came out because they were my favorite pants.

I don’t believe anybody here doesn’t wear underwear with period stains. Amy Schumer wants out I knew I was rich when I started throwing out my underwear with Period. Stains.

I’m extremely careful about when I wear white pants or shorts. Ie; I only wear them when I’m feeling 100% sure it won’t happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two DDs, both 17. They’d be mortified by having visible period stains, but they’re otherwise very nonchalant about menstruation-related things. In middle school, one of my DDs used to carry her pads openly and would even have one out on her desk. The other was asked, in front of her entire class, if she was on her period when she got a bathroom pass while holding a tiny purse, on the first day she went to school during her very first cycle. She didn’t die of embarrassment and treated it like a badge of honor.

"and would even have one out on her desk."
WHY?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a life still to know about stain removal for all kinds of stains. Now with a few keystrokes one can learn about how to remove stains from blood, ink, wine, grease, dirt etc via YouTube, reddit, tik tok, whatever.

Stains can ruin clothes no matter what the stain. My 17 yr old's preferred solution is to rebuy a stained item of clothing (underwear, pants, sheets), which is wasteful and expensive. I have been trying super hard to teach her how to at least try hard to remove stains, like blood. Rinse in hot water, put alcohol based hand sanitizer on it and let it sit. Then after an hour or so put some cozy clean spray/ spray and wash and let that sit. Wash in hot water, 2 rinses. Then let it dry in the hot sun. If it doesn't come out then, repeat the process. This also has worked for ink (my daughter got it all over her duvet cover).

If it is underwear, try buying black underwear.

You are doing it wrong. Blood should not be rinsed with hot water because that actually sets the stain in. Rinse it with cold water, rub in some salt, rinse with more cold water, repeat. Then in the laundry, cold water and OxiClean works better than bleach. If the stain is still visible on the item after washing, then keep working on it before putting it in the dryer because the dryer heat will definitely set it in. If it has been set in by heat, it may never come out.

I'm not doing it wrong for our clothes because it comes out. I am glad you have found a method that works for you. I also never said anything about the dryer or bleach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is also normal to pee and poop - basic human functions but I have no desire to see that on people’s clothes or beds or furniture. Same is true with period blood. Bodily fluids should be cleaned up. Additionally blood should be rinsed out when fresh to keep from staining.

Thank you for some sanity and not labeling cleaning up period blood as misogyny

FFS!

[Anonymous]

My friend is a principal at an urban elementary school and one older girl got her period for the first time in class. There was blood all over the seat. When my friend got to the classroom, she was so afraid of how the other kids would be reacting, the girl's embarrassment, etc. She said the kids- boys and girls alike- were so sweet and only cared whether the girl was OK, and moved on quickly like it was nbd. So, it's great we have been able to impart on the younger generation that menstruation is a natural part of life that is not shameful.

That doesn't mean we proudly walk around with bodily functions on our clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two DDs, both 17. They’d be mortified by having visible period stains, but they’re otherwise very nonchalant about menstruation-related things. In middle school, one of my DDs used to carry her pads openly and would even have one out on her desk. The other was asked, in front of her entire class, if she was on her period when she got a bathroom pass while holding a tiny purse, on the first day she went to school during her very first cycle. She didn’t die of embarrassment and treated it like a badge of honor.

"and would even have one out on her desk."
WHY?

I mean, who cares? I’m a senior exec, and I used to tell my boss that open concept plans for offices were typically inherently misogynistic and failed to take into account how women work. “Where should women put their tampons?” was one of the things I pointed out to him. Along with “moms generally take 80% or more of the callls from doctors, school, etc — how do you not accidentally penalize them for this as these calls are more visible since they don’t have a door to close?”

Of course, we can keep a stash in a laptop bag, but in general, women’s needs are not accommodated in office planning. IBM had a whole “free the tampon” movement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a life still to know about stain removal for all kinds of stains. Now with a few keystrokes one can learn about how to remove stains from blood, ink, wine, grease, dirt etc via YouTube, reddit, tik tok, whatever.

Stains can ruin clothes no matter what the stain. My 17 yr old's preferred solution is to rebuy a stained item of clothing (underwear, pants, sheets), which is wasteful and expensive. I have been trying super hard to teach her how to at least try hard to remove stains, like blood. Rinse in hot water, put alcohol based hand sanitizer on it and let it sit. Then after an hour or so put some cozy clean spray/ spray and wash and let that sit. Wash in hot water, 2 rinses. Then let it dry in the hot sun. If it doesn't come out then, repeat the process. This also has worked for ink (my daughter got it all over her duvet cover).

If it is underwear, try buying black underwear.

You are doing it wrong. Blood should not be rinsed with hot water because that actually sets the stain in. Rinse it with cold water, rub in some salt, rinse with more cold water, repeat. Then in the laundry, cold water and OxiClean works better than bleach. If the stain is still visible on the item after washing, then keep working on it before putting it in the dryer because the dryer heat will definitely set it in. If it has been set in by heat, it may never come out.

Agree that hot water is wrong and you use cold water. But generally cold water from the bathroom sink with some hand soap and a quick scrub gets out the stains my daughter and I deal with 90% or more of them time. It literally takes about 60 seconds to handle this. I’m surprised people need to have these sophisticated systems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two DDs, both 17. They’d be mortified by having visible period stains, but they’re otherwise very nonchalant about menstruation-related things. In middle school, one of my DDs used to carry her pads openly and would even have one out on her desk. The other was asked, in front of her entire class, if she was on her period when she got a bathroom pass while holding a tiny purse, on the first day she went to school during her very first cycle. She didn’t die of embarrassment and treated it like a badge of honor.

"and would even have one out on her desk."
WHY?

I mean, who cares? I’m a senior exec, and I used to tell my boss that open concept plans for offices were typically inherently misogynistic and failed to take into account how women work. “Where should women put their tampons?” was one of the things I pointed out to him. Along with “moms generally take 80% or more of the callls from doctors, school, etc — how do you not accidentally penalize them for this as these calls are more visible since they don’t have a door to close?”

Of course, we can keep a stash in a laptop bag, but in general, women’s needs are not accommodated in office planning. IBM had a whole “free the tampon” movement.

Open-concept offices are misogynistic?

This sounds like an S/O

[Anonymous]

This topic is so stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two DDs, both 17. They’d be mortified by having visible period stains, but they’re otherwise very nonchalant about menstruation-related things. In middle school, one of my DDs used to carry her pads openly and would even have one out on her desk. The other was asked, in front of her entire class, if she was on her period when she got a bathroom pass while holding a tiny purse, on the first day she went to school during her very first cycle. She didn’t die of embarrassment and treated it like a badge of honor.

"and would even have one out on her desk."
WHY?

I mean, who cares? I’m a senior exec, and I used to tell my boss that open concept plans for offices were typically inherently misogynistic and failed to take into account how women work. “Where should women put their tampons?” was one of the things I pointed out to him. Along with “moms generally take 80% or more of the callls from doctors, school, etc — how do you not accidentally penalize them for this as these calls are more visible since they don’t have a door to close?”

Of course, we can keep a stash in a laptop bag, but in general, women’s needs are not accommodated in office planning. IBM had a whole “free the tampon” movement.

Agreed. Open plan offices also place a higher burden on nursing moms because it's not possible to pump at your desk while working.

The anti-privacy movement in modern office design definitely places a higher burden on women than men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two DDs, both 17. They’d be mortified by having visible period stains, but they’re otherwise very nonchalant about menstruation-related things. In middle school, one of my DDs used to carry her pads openly and would even have one out on her desk. The other was asked, in front of her entire class, if she was on her period when she got a bathroom pass while holding a tiny purse, on the first day she went to school during her very first cycle. She didn’t die of embarrassment and treated it like a badge of honor.

"and would even have one out on her desk."
WHY?

I mean, who cares? I’m a senior exec, and I used to tell my boss that open concept plans for offices were typically inherently misogynistic and failed to take into account how women work. “Where should women put their tampons?” was one of the things I pointed out to him. Along with “moms generally take 80% or more of the callls from doctors, school, etc — how do you not accidentally penalize them for this as these calls are more visible since they don’t have a door to close?”

Of course, we can keep a stash in a laptop bag, but in general, women’s needs are not accommodated in office planning. IBM had a whole “free the tampon” movement.

Agreed. Open plan offices also place a higher burden on nursing moms because it's not possible to pump at your desk while working.

The anti-privacy movement in modern office design definitely places a higher burden on women than men.

Having your own office is great when pumping but offices now have to provide a pumping room. As far as where to keep tampons, I mean I'm not sure what the issue is. I keep period stuff in my purse and I have my own office.

For phone calls most kid related calls don't need to be secret as it is not a sensitive issue. If they do I would go outside or to my car. I agree that this is a burden on women as every school and camp has always called me even when my husband signed DC up.