Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a truism that widowers quickly move to find new partners; doesn’t that suggest that men are willing/ready to sacrifice their standards for love more than women are?

Not at all. Men want free labour.

It’s a British aristocracy thing, amirite?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love? Do they get a different physical/mental sensation from being in love compared to men?

I am asking because one my coworker was telling me that he recently attended a wedding where the bride was a 42 years divorced with 2 kids very successful making close to $300k but remarried to a guy who works overnight at an amazon factory moving boxes. I have noticed that for love women will sacrifice so much..they will marry a guy who makes significantly less. They will marry an unemployed man and financially take care of him and the house. They will start feeling pressure when they are the last yet to be married in their group in of friends. They will ignore red flags starting at them and get go ahead. Why?

She is 42 so in pre menopause, is divorced, has two kids and demanding job. What's wrong with going for a man who can offer what she doesn't have, time, sex, affection, involved parenting, home management. Sounds like she made a calculated decision.

She made a terrible decision. She is 42 not that far off from retirement..why would she risk her financial future in exchange of what you have listed as benefits? The risks outweigh the benefits. So she sacrificed her financial future for love. Crazy

Why is that sacrificing her financial future? She probably has a prenup and can earn enough for herself and her kids

This assumes she wasn't so hypnotized by love that she decided to forgo any kind of prenup because husband #2 will 100% work out.

Why would you assume that other than wanting to be as negative and nasty as possible? Every woman I know did a prenup on marriage 2.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women are incomplete without a husband

A man is incomplete without a woman

Agree with both statements

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Anonymous wrote:Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love? Do they get a different physical/mental sensation from being in love compared to men?

I am asking because one my coworker was telling me that he recently attended a wedding where the bride was a 42 years divorced with 2 kids very successful making close to $300k but remarried to a guy who works overnight at an amazon factory moving boxes. I have noticed that for love women will sacrifice so much..they will marry a guy who makes significantly less. They will marry an unemployed man and financially take care of him and the house. They will start feeling pressure when they are the last yet to be married in their group in of friends. They will ignore red flags starting at them and get go ahead. Why?

She is 42 so in pre menopause, is divorced, has two kids and demanding job. What's wrong with going for a man who can offer what she doesn't have, time, sex, affection, involved parenting, home management. Sounds like she made a calculated decision.

She made a terrible decision. She is 42 not that far off from retirement..why would she risk her financial future in exchange of what you have listed as benefits? The risks outweigh the benefits. So she sacrificed her financial future for love. Crazy

Why is that sacrificing her financial future? She probably has a prenup and can earn enough for herself and her kids

This assumes she wasn't so hypnotized by love that she decided to forgo any kind of prenup because husband #2 will 100% work out.

Why would you assume that other than wanting to be as negative and nasty as possible? Every woman I know did a prenup on marriage 2.

Seems like a good idea for all who are involved. Would this also help with future divorce and safety? My biggest issue with dating again is that I'm getting older and men feel less safe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women are incomplete without a husband

A man is incomplete without a woman

Agree with both statements

I wouldn't say "incomplete," but I think being married is desirable for most people. I also think both men and women sacrifice a lot to be married. It's not a gendered behavior at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women are incomplete without a husband

A man is incomplete without a woman

"This is a man's world.. but it ain't nothin' without a woman." - James Brown

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Not at all. Men want free labour.

Please tell us more about the "free labour".

I have been married 31 years, and I have worked every day I have been married as an attorney. My DW has worked both inside and sometimes outside of the home during our marriage.

We would love to take advantage of some free labor.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love? Do they get a different physical/mental sensation from being in love compared to men?

I am asking because one my coworker was telling me that he recently attended a wedding where the bride was a 42 years divorced with 2 kids very successful making close to $300k but remarried to a guy who works overnight at an amazon factory moving boxes. I have noticed that for love women will sacrifice so much..they will marry a guy who makes significantly less. They will marry an unemployed man and financially take care of him and the house. They will start feeling pressure when they are the last yet to be married in their group in of friends. They will ignore red flags starting at them and get go ahead. Why?

She is 42 so in pre menopause, is divorced, has two kids and demanding job. What's wrong with going for a man who can offer what she doesn't have, time, sex, affection, involved parenting, home management. Sounds like she made a calculated decision.

She made a terrible decision. She is 42 not that far off from retirement..why would she risk her financial future in exchange of what you have listed as benefits? The risks outweigh the benefits. So she sacrificed her financial future for love. Crazy

Why is that sacrificing her financial future? She probably has a prenup and can earn enough for herself and her kids

This assumes she wasn't so hypnotized by love that she decided to forgo any kind of prenup because husband #2 will 100% work out.

Why would you assume that other than wanting to be as negative and nasty as possible? Every woman I know did a prenup on marriage 2.

Seems like a good idea for all who are involved. Would this also help with future divorce and safety? My biggest issue with dating again is that I'm getting older and men feel less safe.

Not sure what you mean. It protects assets.

[Anonymous]

Being married is the only correct way to fulfill your desires. Woman in op’s post did the best she could.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a truism that widowers quickly move to find new partners; doesn’t that suggest that men are willing/ready to sacrifice their standards for love more than women are?

Not at all. Men want free labour.

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[Anonymous]

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Not at all. Men want free labour.

Please tell us more about the "free labour".

I have been married 31 years, and I have worked every day I have been married as an attorney. My DW has worked both inside and sometimes outside of the home during our marriage.

We would love to take advantage of some free labor.

FREE LABOR FROM WIFEY:
Cooking
Cleaning
Managing the staff
Raising the kids
Teaching the kids
Managing the school, sports, health of the kids
Vacation and summer planning
Holidays, bdays and traditions
Sexy time
Major purchases and decorating
College application management
Makes all appointments and reminders

And best of all… I get to look like a mature, responsible hard-working married Family Guy.

[Anonymous]

And she does the vehicle maintenance and lawn/ landscaping/planting as well. And appliance or system repairs and finds those people.

[Anonymous]

And does the grocery shopping or delivery order and “meal planning.” Whatever that is.

[Anonymous]

I’m supposed to go off Ozempic and start working out and eating nutritiously but I’m too lazy. Easier to keep paying $550 per month for zepbound.

[Anonymous]

Please tell us more about the "free labour".

I have been married 31 years, and I have worked every day I have been married as an attorney. My DW has worked both inside and sometimes outside of the home during our marriage.

We would love to take advantage of some free labor.

FREE LABOR FROM WIFEY:
Cooking
Cleaning
Managing the staff
Raising the kids
Teaching the kids
Managing the school, sports, health of the kids
Vacation and summer planning
Holidays, bdays and traditions
Sexy time
Major purchases and decorating
College application management
Makes all appointments and reminders

And best of all… I get to look like a mature, responsible hard-working married Family Guy.

Wut. Are you saying that one spouse should pay the other for the tasks listed (e.g., sexy time)? How did you get from one spouse doing specific tasks (e.g., managing the staff) while another does other tasks to you receiving free labor? BTW - Does your spouse believe that "sexy time" is labor, or does she ever enjoy it enough to consider it something done for fun?