Do you think you would like yourself if you met yourself?

[Anonymous]

No, because I'm very competitive.

[Anonymous]

No I know how nuts I really am

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have a total girl crush on myself.

Similar. I'd be simultaneously impressed and intimidated. That's actually how I vet my female friends now. I want them to be super real but also...scare me a little.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Theoretical question of course. I don’t think I would if I met myself, for a number of reasons.

I just did a girls weekend with 4 college friends and I could not stand them, so probably not.

[Anonymous]

Yes but I am an introvert so though I’d want to have coffee and a chat I’d not likely follow through.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would marry me and finally have the spouse I deserve!

I like me. It has taken some time to make friends with all the versions of me that I've been in my several decades of life, but each had her reasons and I accept that. This current version of me is amazing, and only getting better.

Thing is, I'd never meet me because I'm basically a hermit, only communicate with about 20 people I love and trust, and don't social (because most of y'all ain't shit). It is what it is.

Holy shit, that's conceited!

I'm sorry your self-esteem is so low. Therapy was really helpful for me. I've also done a lot of work to suck less as a human... Maybe you should try it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m impressed with so many people having such high opinions of themselves. That’s so foreign to me. Must be nice in a way.

You can choose to love yourself or hate yourself. There's no medal for self-flagellation, and anyone who cuts you down for being kind to yourself is revealing their own lack of self-esteem.

I'm not perfect, nor do I ever expect to be (or even want to be). I'm a good person, by choice and through effort. I don't hang out with a whole lot of people who aren't comfortable saying the same about themselves. Too much drama, too much work constantly propping them up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would marry me and finally have the spouse I deserve!

I like me. It has taken some time to make friends with all the versions of me that I've been in my several decades of life, but each had her reasons and I accept that. This current version of me is amazing, and only getting better.

Thing is, I'd never meet me because I'm basically a hermit, only communicate with about 20 people I love and trust, and don't social (because most of y'all ain't shit). It is what it is.

Holy shit, that's conceited!

I'm sorry your self-esteem is so low. Therapy was really helpful for me. I've also done a lot of work to suck less as a human... Maybe you should try it?

Interesting…I was raised to believe that talking about yourself that way indicated insecurity and lack of self-confidence. My mother always used to say that quiet confidence is the best kind of confidence.

[Anonymous]

No, I’m standoffish and do not exude friendship. That being said because I appear like a loner, women do try- women who need friends.

Always funny when you go someplace and you see someone with your type demeanor. Confident.

[Anonymous]

Wow, fascinating question.

I would hope so? But I also think I'm the type of person that you need to meet a few times before you really get to know. I am shy and a bit awkward at first.

[Anonymous]

I'd probably find myself not very interesting and I'd get the name wrong the next time we met.

[Anonymous]

This is such a great question, OP! My answer is yes, probably because I've grown comfortable asking other people interesting questions and drawing them into an engaging conversation (though this question would be too personal / forward in most non-online venues).

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. I’d be relieved to meet another good person, but I’d be jealous - until I heard the whole story.

[Anonymous]

Yes! I would love to meet someone like me - not interested in deep friendship, but friendly and nice in small doses. Someone who would rather not be texted/contacted all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would marry me and finally have the spouse I deserve!

I like me. It has taken some time to make friends with all the versions of me that I've been in my several decades of life, but each had her reasons and I accept that. This current version of me is amazing, and only getting better.

Thing is, I'd never meet me because I'm basically a hermit, only communicate with about 20 people I love and trust, and don't social (because most of y'all ain't shit). It is what it is.

Holy shit, that's conceited!

I'm sorry your self-esteem is so low. Therapy was really helpful for me. I've also done a lot of work to suck less as a human... Maybe you should try it?

Interesting…I was raised to believe that talking about yourself that way indicated insecurity and lack of self-confidence. My mother always used to say that quiet confidence is the best kind of confidence.

That's fine, in person. This thread is about "would you like yourself if you met yourself". Nothing about saying "yes" and why is problematic.

Your mother was probably also raised to smile for the men, and sit quietly in church, and you as a child were to be seen not heard. Meanwhile, mediocre white dudes are calling themselves "lions" and "alphas" and...

I think it's fine for someone to say they've made peace with their past, like who they are, and look forward to improving even more.