Hailee Steinfeld and Josh Allen are engaged!

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Sounds like the ex

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This thread is bizarre. Also, why would you assume Josh Allen is dumb?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is bizarre. Also, why would you assume Josh Allen is dumb?

Read about his background. Hailed can do better. Probably a 2 or 3 year marriage, if that.

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The ex-girlfriend sounds like a wild one. Here’s her IG comment….shes now claiming she was “hacked” lol 😆

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Steinfeld actually seems much more down to earth than Allen's ex, who is an Instagram influencer. If anyone was after Allen for the money and fame, I would guess it was the non-famous lady who makes money off of posting photos of herself online, not the Hollywood actress with an established career and a recurring role in Marvel TV shows and movies.

Also Allen and his ex weren't exactly high school sweethearts. They were sort of set up by their mom's when they were around 17. I don't think they went to the same high school. They went to different colleges (him Wyoming and her Fresno State). They are described as "on again, off again." She moved to Buffalo with him when he was drafted and I'm sure it was comforting for him to have a familiar person in his life as he adjusted to being an NFL QB. But she sounds shallow and fame hungry. They were really only together (as in actually living in the same place and officially dating) a few years before they broke up for good. They didn't have some great love story. I suspect she was using him to boost her own profile and he eventually got sick of it and broke it off for good.

I can see the appeal of someone like Steinfeld who was famous before they met and will be both unfazed and unimpressed by his fame, but can actually help navigating gate it since she's been in the public eye her whole life. Like they seem pretty equally matched in terms of success and having somewhat demanding jobs but also lots of downtown time between seasons/acting gigs.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel bad for the ex. That's a long time to date someone (plus they had a dog and house) without a ring. That's a good chunk of her life gone. Clearly he wasn't into her. He wasted no time with Hailee.

+1 That's how it happens though. A man who strings along a woman for a long time without marriage just isn't into her. Women need to be smart and break up if the relationship isn't moving forward the way they want, not plod along with moving in together, getting pets, god forbid babies, etc.

I agree. I think a max of two years if you are in your mid-20s is long enough.

+1 And if he's not broaching the topic of marriage within 6-12 months, then leave. A man who's madly in love with a woman doesn't need prodding.

Back in the day, I lived in a group house. Two of our roommates went to college together and had a tight-knit group of friends in the area. The female roommate was in a sorority with a female who dated a guy on and off for 10 years who was in a fraternity with our male roommate.

The guy was stringing her along. He would come over and talk to the male roommate about all the things he didn't like about her. He would downplay the relationship and say it wasn't serious. Once he called her psycho and our roommate told him that he was making her psycho. He always dangled a carrot in front of her - if she would just fix X then they could move forward. But these ever-changing goal posts were just an excuse to avoid committing to her.

Then she would come over to talk to our female roommate to work earnestly on trying to fix whatever the X of the day was. Their conversations were totally different. Her version was they were madly in love and didn't need marriage to prove it (because that's the lie he told her). According to her, they were inevitably getting married and just had some hurdles to clear first. She had no idea about the horrible things he would say about her behind her back. He finally broke up with her for good, but only after wasting her best years.

Another couple was engaged for over a decade and he always had a reason to avoid getting married. For years he claimed that he just didn't know what type of wedding he wanted. She bought it (dumbass). They bought a rowhouse together had two kids while he's still talking about finding the right person behind her back. He complained behind her back about her pressuring him into having kids. He said he didn't want them after they were born (but not to her, obviously). They did fertility treatments to have those kids! It's not like he was tricked into it.

I lost track of them but they just kept moving forward without marriage. She was deluding herself into thinking they're in love but just unconventional. He deluded himself into thinking he's still on the market to find Mrs. Right even while buying a home together, having kids, etc. with someone else.

Why get married? Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn haven’t married and have probably the best Hollywood relationship out there. Furthermore, Josh Allen is known to be amazing to his fans.

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Anonymous wrote:The ex-girlfriend sounds like a wild one. Here’s her IG comment….shes now claiming she was “hacked” lol 😆

It's highly likely the guy does have CTE. Do you watch football? He's suffered from concussions his entire career. And it's not like rich pro athletes are known marks. Spare me that the actress has her own millions, she doesn't have HUNDREDS of millions.

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Anonymous wrote:The ex-girlfriend sounds like a wild one. Here’s her IG comment….shes now claiming she was “hacked” lol 😆

It's highly likely the guy does have CTE. Do you watch football? He's suffered from concussions his entire career. And it's not like rich pro athletes are known marks. Spare me that the actress has her own millions, she doesn't have HUNDREDS of millions.

But a successful actress like Steinfeld could marry any number of rich guys. There are plenty of men with similar incomes to Allen's, plus others with significantly more in terms of inherited wealth or investment income, who I'm sure would be happy to go out with an actress like Steinfeld. There is no reason for her to "mark" someone like Allen -- she's young, successful, and has her own money. She's a catch.

Also Allen has to spend half the year living in Buffalo. And Steinfeld goes to all his home games and attends team and charitable events with him there. Would she really do that if she was just after his money? She could find a rich guy in LA or NYC who is not contractually required to be in Buffalo all the time if all she wanted was access to funds.

As for CTE, I don't know. A lot of football players probably have it. But lots of people have issues. My DH has some neurological issues that showed up in his 40s and are likely genetic. He never played football. If you really love someone are you going to ditch them because they might have a job-related injury that could be a challenge down the road? Is someone a golddigger if they marry someone with a family history of early-onset Alzheimers or MS?

If the ex actually wrote that post on Instagram, I suspect she's the one who was gold digging and is mad it didn't work. Because that's a pretty cynical take.

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He's probably well rid of his ex but I have to admit I'd be salty too if I stuck with a guy for a decade or whatever it was, and he traded up as soon as he made it big.

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Anonymous wrote:The ex-girlfriend sounds like a wild one. Here’s her IG comment….shes now claiming she was “hacked” lol 😆

It's highly likely the guy does have CTE. Do you watch football? He's suffered from concussions his entire career. And it's not like rich pro athletes are known marks. Spare me that the actress has her own millions, she doesn't have HUNDREDS of millions.

But a successful actress like Steinfeld could marry any number of rich guys. There are plenty of men with similar incomes to Allen's, plus others with significantly more in terms of inherited wealth or investment income, who I'm sure would be happy to go out with an actress like Steinfeld. There is no reason for her to "mark" someone like Allen -- she's young, successful, and has her own money. She's a catch.

Also Allen has to spend half the year living in Buffalo. And Steinfeld goes to all his home games and attends team and charitable events with him there. Would she really do that if she was just after his money? She could find a rich guy in LA or NYC who is not contractually required to be in Buffalo all the time if all she wanted was access to funds.

As for CTE, I don't know. A lot of football players probably have it. But lots of people have issues. My DH has some neurological issues that showed up in his 40s and are likely genetic. He never played football. If you really love someone are you going to ditch them because they might have a job-related injury that could be a challenge down the road? Is someone a golddigger if they marry someone with a family history of early-onset Alzheimers or MS?

If the ex actually wrote that post on Instagram, I suspect she's the one who was gold digging and is mad it didn't work. Because that's a pretty cynical take.

Buffalo in the winter, no less.

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Anonymous wrote:He's probably well rid of his ex but I have to admit I'd be salty too if I stuck with a guy for a decade or whatever it was, and he traded up as soon as he made it big.

The ex was with him when he "made it big" (got drafted). They moved to Buffalo and built a house there together.

However I don't get the sense they were really together for a decade nor that he "traded up." They met as teens but went to different colleges and it doesn't sound like they were solidly together for most of that time. NFL players are often strongly encourage/recommended (by other players and sometimes by agents and managers and people with the team) to lock things down with their college or high school girlfriend. It's part of the culture, similar to the military where people also tend to marry young. I think the thinking is that if you marry early she can set up your house and create a home life for you that will be a source of stability and consistency when you are traveling constantly during the season and have a lot of craziness in your work life.

So probably Allen was thinking along those lines with his ex but since it was only after he was drafted and moved to Buffalo that they actually lived together and were consistently in each others lives, that was likely the first real test of their compatibility. It sounds like things fell apart over a year ago for them and that he didn't start dating Steinfeld until after.

So it just doesn't sound like a situation where he strung her along and then traded up. It sounds like they got together young, played house and realized they were not compatible, and then they broke up and he found someone more compatible very quickly. Which yes would be a hard pill to swallow but she's like 28 not 38, if she really wants to get married and have kids then her time with Allen has cost her nothing. Now being an influencer who makes money by posting photos of herself in skimpy clothes is the real thing that is going to make it hard for her to find commitment. And it's likely this was part of what Allen ultimately decided he didn't want to be a part of.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is bizarre. Also, why would you assume Josh Allen is dumb?

Read about his background. Hailed can do better. Probably a 2 or 3 year marriage, if that.

His background is that he is a successful multi-sport athlete who also worked in his family restaurant and won several awards for work he did on his family farm and at 4H competitions.

Again, why do think he is dumb?

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Anonymous wrote:I think she's attractive and he looks awful to me. He wasn't recruited by one NFL team because of racist tweets he made[b]. The Bills must be ok with racism.

You lost me at "recruited." He was drafted by the Bills at number 7 slot after the other 6 teams had passed on him. The other 6 teams have their regrets now.

Trying to deny racist tweets are you? Just because he can throw a ball does not make him a good person hero worshipper.

The tweets reflect a period in US culture where a lot of young white men used the n-word casually with each other because they were listening to a lot of rap music and adopting the language mindlessly. They were stupid and offensive but they were not actually racist (he wasn't referring to black people, just throwing around the n-word the way a rapper might and not getting that a white 16 yr old should not be talking like a black rapper for a bunch of different reasons). He also parroted the phrase "if it ain't white, it ain't right" but it's obviously a joke (again, an offensive and stupid joke but not one actually meant as a slight against black people).

He owned up to the tweets and offered a real apology for them. He has a really fantastic reputation in the NFL for being a terrific teammate and appears to be well liked by other players including black players. There is no indication that he is racist in his thinking or behavior. This is actually a good example of someone who screwed up, realized their error, corrected their behavior, and became a better person.

Imagine if the dumbest thing you did at 16 was revealed in national press and discussed on television. Would you handle it as well as Allen did? Would you be able to gracefully address it and correct it?