That might be, but I'm sure they're happier than those with kids. |
I agree. I am an only child and I have an only child. It made for a much more pleasant life. |
You were suggesting to go ahead and have kids even if you're not sure about it. That's horrible advice. |
Just not for everyone around you. |
Hard disagree but looks like PP was expecting pushback so no surprise there. If we are just talking about people letting their kids behave poorly in a restaurant then yes I agree that's a parenting problem. I find kids annoying in hundreds of situations beyond that... Kids are their own people, not just an extension of you as a parent. There are plenty of good kids with good parents who are definitely annoying, not because something is wrong, but because people are wildly individual and don't always work the same way. Also, what if your child has special needs, mental illness, etc. and behavior that you find very annoying? It's totally out of your control whether that's part of who they are. Sure, good parenting, therapies and strategies can make a big difference, but kids are sometimes a nuisance and not through any fault of their own. We love them anyway and think they are worth it. |
I'm not sure what you mean. People without kids are undoubtedly happier than those with kids. Don't try to drag the OP down with you. |
Most parents with kids with significant special needs don't think they're worth it, though. |
Don’t do it. Unless you are 100% committed, don’t bring a human who will be completely dependent on you into this world. There are enough bad parents out there, and the consequences are everywhere. |
How is it horrible advice when it worked out beautifully for me? Advice is based on personal experience - that is mine |
Cope. |
Unlike the little black cloud that is you? |
My advice? Stop at 1 kid. It’s all the good stuff about raising kids, but very easy to divide & conquer with a spouse when times get tough and you need to tap out for a break.
Once you have two kids, it’s game over. Those kids run your life. They feed off each other and it’s pure chaos. And it’s really tough for one parent to manage two young kids, if you want to take off for a weekend with friends. Absolutely exhausting. Another issue I have is that basically the grandparents could handle watching one kid for a weekend, but can’t handle 2+. They are too old and two kids’ worth of energy is too much for them. So now we can’t even get away for a romantic weekend for our anniversary anymore. It honestly sucks. I have a big regret not stopping at one kid. Though, tbh, our younger kid is so much more pleasant than our older kid at every age milestone. |
Two kids?! This is so overly dramatic, all of it. My personal advice: two is the perfect number. 2-3 years apart, if you can swing it. |
Wow... You should never give advice to anyone. |
+1. This. Breaks are nonexistent. Grandparents are great with one but two is overkill. We also have a dog so that is an added responsibility and basically a 3rd child in many ways. |