1000% this. Because it isn’t a personality. It’s being a robot. Maybe some people can be that or fake being that but it’s a huge effort to essentially act like much of your innate humanity has been left in the office lobby. Where does it end? Are any emotions professional? How do you know which ones? |
What’s an agency director? Is that a Club Fed thing? |
NP. Because OP is a millennial navel gazer who cannot get past her ideologies. She probably posts on TikTok about how unfair and unmanageable the workplace is. |
The act is part of the work. There is no perfect path. That said, it sounds like you’re on the verge of a breakdown - can you take a leave of absence? |
I honestly couldn’t care less about this stuff. I’ll be honest to my boss and others, while being constructive. No point in being fake. You only got one life dude |
It’s a skill called professionalism. |
That’s actually not the definition of professionalism at all and this misapprehension is part of the issue |
I don’t know I can’t relate. I act professional because it makes it easier for the company to acheive goals when I act like that and I get paid well based on achieving those goals.
I’ll save my pity for people who have to pretend to be cheerful while serving French fries 2,000 times a day for like $12 an hour. |
PP, not federal, but government. The head of a department. I worked for a few, their deputies, and knew some of their peers from other agencies. A lot of them had MPA degrees, so I guess they planned specifically to be in government administration. I got near their level and wondered if I would have learned their way of dampening their personalities from this degree. |
Nothing wrong with folks and y'all. I sat those and I'm a nasty curmudgeon at the bottom of the ladder. |
^^and I'll add: they were competent and knew what they were doing. Part of that was acting the way they did. They got farther than I did. |
^^and I'll add that they were competent and knew what they were doing including how they acted. They got to the top positions, and I and many others did not. |
Is not misery Olympics. |
Dampening personalities is a great way of putting it Depends on your line of work and natural persona |
I work in a big bank. It is not a good match for me. I speak to the point, without pretense. At work, I need to use empty words because everyone does it.
The level of backstabbing, favoritism, hazing , gaslighting is unreal. It comes from the very top. The company likes to put people against each other and see who survives. I am burned out. I am exhausted. I also feel like there is a better job out there for me, so I keep my hopes up and look for new opportunities. |