When did you stop paying for vacations together-college?

[Anonymous]

If we invite them we pay, including significant others if they have them.

[Anonymous]

I am 40. My parents will still foot the bill for things like renting a big beach house and inviting kids + spouses + grandkids. We all drive or manage the airfare on our own, or chip in for groceries/meals out.

Occasionally they will also pay for our airfare to visit them. We have 3 kids and it costs $2,500-3,000 to fly to them during the holidays. We can afford to do that every other year or so (airfare is a big expense for a family of 5 and there are other places we want to travel, so we just can’t pay to fly to them all the time). So sometimes they’ll just offer to buy airfare because they want to see us/the grandkids and it’s harder for them to travel to us. I’m sure I’ll get called a mooch, but I don’t care. It works for us and it otherwise wouldn’t be possible for us to take on 100% of the cost/logistics of travel all the time.

[Anonymous]

I am so fascinated that people in their 30s and 40s are going on vacations that their (presumably elderly) parents pay for.

In my mind, it should be the other way around, but oh well.

[Anonymous]

My in-laws have been paying for vacations (including me) since we were first seriously dating when we were 19. They still pay for at least one family vacation a year. It's very generous of them and appreciated. If we can afford to do that, it's what I would do for our kids.

(Vacations with my parents consist of them driving their RV to see us, or us driving down to them and staying in their home, so there's not really costs in the same way)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so fascinated that people in their 30s and 40s are going on vacations that their (presumably elderly) parents pay for.

In my mind, it should be the other way around, but oh well.

This is what we do- invite the grandparents and pay for them to join us

[Anonymous]

Don’t you all mind going on vacation with your parents? We took a trip with my MIL - never again lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so fascinated that people in their 30s and 40s are going on vacations that their (presumably elderly) parents pay for.

In my mind, it should be the other way around, but oh well.

My elderly parents won't even let me pay for dinner on their birthdays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Forever, but SOs are not invited unless married. Pay for all.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so fascinated that people in their 30s and 40s are going on vacations that their (presumably elderly) parents pay for.

In my mind, it should be the other way around, but oh well.

My elderly parents won't even let me pay for dinner on their birthdays.

Send them my way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so fascinated that people in their 30s and 40s are going on vacations that their (presumably elderly) parents pay for.

In my mind, it should be the other way around, but oh well.

My elderly parents won't even let me pay for dinner on their birthdays.

Same. My 80 yo dad always fights my husband or my brother to pay the restaurant bill.

Meanwhile my FIL and MIL are crickets when a food bill comes. And they have $5m of rental apartments plus tons of passive cash flow.

[Anonymous]

I'm mid 30's and my mom literally just sent me money to book flights for DH and I to go on a trip - without them! She constantly offers to book us to go with them for things, like cruises and whatnot, but we havent taken it up yet. We went on one vacation with her like 10 years ago and it was kind of awful. She's better now, married, therapy, etc, but also much older now. We did fly down to visit them when they were snowbirding, but we paid for our own flights and just stayed with them.

My ILs also constantly suggest trips, but they are far too immobile to really do much. My MIL did a shore excursion that was rated "Easy" and still had some walking. She complained that it was all walking! And that it was supposed to be easy! It probably was, just not for her. They also invited us on a cruise with them (this one, that she complained about the excursion), and I'm glad we didn't go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so fascinated that people in their 30s and 40s are going on vacations that their (presumably elderly) parents pay for.

In my mind, it should be the other way around, but oh well.

Pay it forward.

My adult kids have good careers and work their butts off but also have 2-4 kids each family, live in costly areas, and are saving for kids colleges and their retirement plus running their households.

No way do I want them paying for our flights or resort room or nice meals out. How absurd.

Nice cards or thoughtful gifts or calls from the grandkids and my own kids are the best.

[Anonymous]

Plus they are so overtaxed .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so fascinated that people in their 30s and 40s are going on vacations that their (presumably elderly) parents pay for.

In my mind, it should be the other way around, but oh well.

Pay it forward.

My adult kids have good careers and work their butts off but also have 2-4 kids each family, live in costly areas, and are saving for kids colleges and their retirement plus running their households.

No way do I want them paying for our flights or resort room or nice meals out. How absurd.

Nice cards or thoughtful gifts or calls from the grandkids and my own kids are the best.

How old are they? We have 2 kids, live in a costly area, saving for retirement and college, and it would not be “absurd” to treat our parents to vacation. But, we are mid to late 40s. So maybe you are taking about 30 year old, or a millennial who is used to their parents paying for everything. Different generations for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so fascinated that people in their 30s and 40s are going on vacations that their (presumably elderly) parents pay for.

In my mind, it should be the other way around, but oh well.

Pay it forward.

My adult kids have good careers and work their butts off but also have 2-4 kids each family, live in costly areas, and are saving for kids colleges and their retirement plus running their households.

No way do I want them paying for our flights or resort room or nice meals out. How absurd.

Nice cards or thoughtful gifts or calls from the grandkids and my own kids are the best.

How old are they? We have 2 kids, live in a costly area, saving for retirement and college, and it would not be “absurd” to treat our parents to vacation. But, we are mid to late 40s. So maybe you are taking about 30 year old, or a millennial who is used to their parents paying for everything. Different generations for sure.

WtF? Can everyone just do what works for them and their families? Pay. Don't pay. But don't base it based on what others are/are not doing. Done.