Sex while pregnant?

[Anonymous]

How often are people having sex while pregnant? I am 7 weeks and we haven't had sex once. I feel really guilty about it but I feel so awful all the time
that I just can't imagine it! Is this terrible?

[Anonymous]

I didn't have any sex during first trimester. Felt too crappy and tired. Had sex one time during the second trimester, and haven't had any since.

Most people feel better and energized enough to have sex during the second trimester and beyond. My problem was that my hip joints started to really hurt around that time, and any position we tried was massively uncomfortable or even painful.

Give it some time, before you fret too much.

[Anonymous]

I am 31 weeks and we currently have sex 1-2x a week. DH would like more, but we also have a 1 yr old, who doesnt always sleep through the night and I am exhausted. Even if I am not up for sex for physical reasons, I usually try to give him a bj.

Its not easy but I try to remember that there are 2 of us and just bc I am not up for it, I dont want our relationship to suffer.

[Anonymous]

PP her - I should mention that I (luckily) didnt have any morning sickness, so that wasnt a factor.

[Anonymous]

DH was deployed most of the pregnancy but he was able to come home on my due date, I happened to be 5 days late so those last 5 days we had sex every day - sometimes more than once a day! We were trying to get labor started too... not to mention we hadn't seen each other in 6 months.

[Anonymous]

Very little in the 1st trimester (for obvious reasons - nausea, etc.)

Some in the 2nd trimester - babymoon phase, took a vacation, boobs got nice and big (flat chested so this was a treat )

Not so much in 3rd trimester - belly in the way, no sex drive, feeling un-sexy

[Anonymous]

I had an increase in my sex drive with my first pregnancy and an almost total loss for my second. I think we may have had sex two, maybe three times during the whole pregnancy. My partner seemed a bit annoyed with in the beginning, but then she adjusted (or at least stop acting annoyed).

[Anonymous]

Once I started feeling sick in the first trimester, there was none for the next two months. Just felt too bad and had no wish to. But once I started feeling better everything improved greatly including my mood and we got back to our normal routine. This may change in the 3rd trimester...will have to see.

[Anonymous]

I never lost my sex drive for my first and I am pregnant with my second, I am 11 weeks pregnant and I have sex everyday! I think my hormones are going crazy in a good way!!!!

[Anonymous]

In my case, the issue isn't with me, it's my husband! In first trimester, I had no sex drive, but it returned nicely once the nausea and exhaustion were gone. But now, in the third trimester, having sex (intercourse, that is) freaks him out. Think once he started feeling the baby kick, it became a turn off, no matter how many times I tell him that the baby can't feel anything, or wouldn't have a clue what was going on. It's driving me crazy, because I would have no problems getting busy, and I know after the baby comes we'll have recovery, no sleep, etc so it's unlikely that we'd be having fun in that direction for a while. Grr!

We are intimate in other ways, but sometimes there's no substitute for the real thing.

[Anonymous]

Had like zero sex in first trimester because of nausea and being tired all the time. Husband was totally cool with it. In the second trimester now and I'm raring to go all the time. We're having it about 2-3 times a week (normal for us).

[Anonymous]

During my first pregnancy, I had very little sex drive. We had no sex during the first trimester because I was so sick, and then when I felt better I made an effort to have sex once a week (normal for us) even though I wasn't terribly into it. We even had sex to get labor started at 40 weeks -- and it worked. This time (I'm 27 weeks now), I have had a much higher sex drive than is normal for me, although unfortunately for my DH, most of that has ended up being self-help because it's hard to make time for sex with a demanding 21-month-old! Saying all that to say, there is a wide spectrum of sex drive during pregnancy and it's all completely normal. For me, the biggest dry spell in my sex drive was during breastfeeding -- I had almost no desire for sex at all until DS was at least 9 months old and on solids.